(Closed) almost married

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Check out the requirements for an annulment in your state.  If you don’t meet those requirements I suppose you would have to check into a divorce.  Also, contact the place where you got/sent your marriage lisence.  Ask them what you can do, if anything.

Post # 4
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918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@myname: Are there any specific reasons why? I’ve been married for just about a month, and although I agree its not all sunshine and rainbows I’m still happy to be married to the man I love!

Post # 5
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2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@myname: I regret my original post in this thread.  I wish I could delete it but since I can’t I’m reposting to officially change my answer.  I’ve been thinking about this all day.  So, please ignore my original post. What I really feel is as follows:

When we marry our husbands we are supposed to honor our vows.  I know it can be difficult and you may question a lot.  But, the vows were a promise.  We are supposed to keep our promise.  There are many avenues such as counseling, ministry etc. that can help you on your journey, nevertheless, you promised to take this journey, therefore you should honor it.

Please accept my apologies for my original post in this thread.  It was the wrong thing to say.  

Post # 6
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@myname: Instead of running away, think about why you feel like this is a mistake. Getting married is obviously a huge step in life, so it does take some getting used to and I think we have all fault a bit of doubt at some point or another. I would highly suggest you get some counseling and communicate with your SO about whatever your issues may be. But again, running isn’t the answer. Good luck, honey!

 

Post # 7
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I feel as though I could give such a better answer if we knew the reasons behind why you are feeling this way.. I think that sometimes women get so caught up in wedding planning that they ignor signs that the marriage isnt for them and they actually want a wedding and not so much a marriage. I dont know what happened in your case that just seems like it happens alot. Anyways Im sorry you are feeling this way, but you have not been married that long so I would say that you should look into talking to someone etc and working out your marriage issues, before you make any rash decisions. 

Post # 8
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3522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@2ndtime: I don’t think the OP should be forced/guilted into “honoring” her vows if she is truly miserable. Sometimes, things just can’t be worked out, no matter how people try. 

I agree, OP, that you should think about WHY you feel you made a mistake. Perhaps individual counseling will help you sort things out. Once you’ve figured this out, you can decide what your next move should be. 

Post # 9
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2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs Grape:

I don’t think she was forcing or guilting her into anything. She was just reminding her of the vows she took.

OP, I agree, you need to figure out why you think this isn’t going to work out. Counselling is a good idea. If you really feel like this is the biggest mistake, then I say get out as soon as possible, because in the end, you only live once. Mistakes happen, happiness is worth fighting for.

Post # 10
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173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@myname: First, welcome to the bee. I am sorry that your first post has to be one so sad. I don’t believe there is anyway to cancel the certificate now that it has been sent. Perhaps if you were able to share we could more easily advise you. Is it a matter of abuse? Or is marriage simply not living up to your expectations? With these answers we can better answer your question. Hope you find the answers you need.

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