Post # 1
people keep dropping out of my bachelorette party. it’s local and inexpensive, but people keep discovering a prior commitment. my sister had a similar one last year that i planned but she had like 12 girls and now i only have 6 INCLUDING ME. i have never seen such a small bachelorette before. it’s not like i’m asking people to travel. i just feel like such a loser. i thought i had a ton of friends but i guess i’m not important to anyone.
ETA: Bees, I realize how ridiculous I am being. 2 pf the ppl who are coming are actually travelling to be here and I should just be happy to have friends. The only reason I am not deleting this is because I will not erase evidence that even semi-sane ppl like me have these weird thoughts sometimes
Post # 3
Well, I had 6 girls at mine and we had a blast. And I am going to one next week with 5 girls which will also be a blast! Ive been to huge (20+ people) bachelorette parties and it can be a pain. Not everyone wants to do the same thing, it’s hard to travel from bar to bar, etc. Im sure your closest friends will be there and thats all that matters.
Also, it’s very hard to find a weekend in the summer that works with everyones schedules. With weddings, graduations, etc. it’s hard to plan with a big group of people.
Post # 4
@fingerscrossed: Don’t feel bad. Some folks just don’t like parties. I would never go to a bachelorette, even if it was next door. Also, maybe they are not making up excuses – maybe they are real, valid reasons. You can’t control who attends, so just have fun with the folks who made the effort to come!
Post # 5
I only had 3 girls at mine.
Post # 6
Um I had 4 including me. Itirk ultimately be what you make of it!!!! I’m not even talking to my Maid/Matron of Honor anymore. Could be worse things !
Post # 7
6 doesn’t seem small to me! You have a good time in life when you set your mind to have a good time in life, relax and enjoy the people who are there!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@fingerscrossed: The ladies at my bachelorette were all of my mom’s friends and they were all in their late 40’s to early 50’s. We had a great time but it felt weird not having more ladies my own age. I say to be happy and enjoy it with the people who actually want to be there.
Post # 9
don’t get caught up in the idea that because 6 aren’t coming ‘i’m not important to anyone’ – that’s pretty dramatic and simply not true! just because someone can’t come to one event, doesn’t mean that they don’t care about you.
time to appreciate the people who are coming, the fact that you’re having a bachelorette and have a great time instead of lamenting the ones who aren’t able to be there!
Post # 10
Yeah I realized I’m being an idiot in about 5 seconds
Post # 11
@fingerscrossed: 6 people is a good number. I don’t think I even invited that many… I didn’t even have one because it came down to me and my sister.
Don’t worry, be happy!
Post # 12
No way, it’s going to be awesome! It is much easier to travel and plan with a small crowd than a big one. I’ve been to both very small (5 people) and bigger (15+ people) bachelorettes, and I’ve got to say – I have much more fun at the smaller ones!
Everything feels more spontaneous and less scheduled. 🙂
I vote you give all the party attendees a small tiara, and then have a large one for yourself.
Oh, you missed my bachelorette? Well then, you missed being a mini princess for the night, sucks for you.
[ETA] You’re not being an idiot! I totally get where you’re coming from!
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
My bachelorette party was just my Maid/Matron of Honor and myself, cooking and eating and drinking wine the whole day. And it was AWESOME! Your party is what you make of it 🙂
Post # 14
Don’t sweat it! It’s not a popularity contest that gets decided by # of guests who show up. I’ve been to a huge bachelorette before w about 22 girls and honestly not allof them were even friends of the bride! a lot of them were someone’s friend who they asked to come along .
I only had 7 including me for the partying portion of the night and it was perfect !!
Post # 15
+1 I always *pray* for something else to happen that weekend so I don’t have to make up a lie. I’ve been lucky in that, the last 3 I was invited to, I had actual prior plans the same date.
Like others have said, 6 is a TON of people :-p I cannot think of 6 people I’d want to hang out with for more than an hour :-p
Post # 16
That sound like the perfect amount to me! I’m having my bachelorette this weekend and am guessing i will have about that many! Enough people for a party atmosphere and small enough to keep it intimate and have an awesome group dynamic.