- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Yep, that’s right…last night I had just about had enough.
Skip back to July….my Maid of honor emails all the girls explaining what she was thinking of doing and asking for everyone’s opinions. Now , I wasn’t told much of this until very recently, but turns out my little sister, other bff and mom were the only ones that responded to that email. That left my older sister and Future Sister-In-Law not participating. My Maid/Matron of Honor ends up telling me this a couple weeks ago while at my house discussing wedding things. I told her she should try to engage them again and be more specific about needing to know what each person thinks and actually asking for opinions from everyone.
Well, again everyone replies within a day or so, even my older sister….but again, nothing from Future Sister-In-Law. Until 5 days later when she sends a private FB message to Maid/Matron of Honor telling her that since she’d been out from having the baby she didn’t think she’d be able to split the shower costs. (Here’s the back story…she recently had a baby and her and her husband ( FI’S brother) also have another child so while she was on maternity leave they weren’t getting much money in. She’s been back to work 2 weeks now and I believe she had been paid 2 out of the 3 months she was out.)
Now, no one faults her for having these financial issues since we all know what that’s like….but , I asked her repeatedly if she thought it was going to be a burden on her to still be one of my maids and she assured me it wasn’t going to be. We ( FI and I) are even helping them pay one of their bills each month to help for the next couple months. But, she decided she couldn’t help with splitting a low key shower 5 ways….
So, my Maid/Matron of Honor only tells my mom about this issue and they decide it’s best not to tell anyone else as we are all woman and can be catty. My mom decides she’ll handle the 5th BM’s share and all will be well…..
Not so much, my mom “slipped” and told my little sister…who then ( I am strongly guessing) told my older sister. Well, now that word is traveling Fiance is getting upset that ppl are going to be saying nasty things about his family because she said she couldn’t help financially.
No one has told me what has been said or by whom but I know somethings have been said about her. This makes me mad because I didn’t want any of this drama. I didn’t need a shower and certainly don’t want trouble between ppl that I love.
My mom called me last night and reassured me all is well and that there will be no drama. My Maid/Matron of Honor told me that she won’t hesitate to yell at anyone that tries to cause shit because frankly, she’s pregnant and works full time and wants to make this as special for me as possible and doesn’t have time for it.
(I know I’m rambling bare with me….)
My other concern ( yes there is more ) is also that Future Sister-In-Law hasn’t been involving herself into anything at all…no ideas…no suggestions….not volunteering to help in other ways…NOTHING.
I’m kinda hurt by it. Fiance says that I should know that’s just how she is and not take it personal.
I just don’t know. I trust my mom and everyone and of course trust Fiance with my life so they all tell me it’s going to be fine and not to worry myself about it. That it will all be taken care of…but I feel guilty…like if they weren’t planning this for me then everyone would be fine with no stress…
Idk, if any of that ended up making sense and anyone has any words of advice, or really anything feel free…thanks!