(Closed) Almost sexually assaulted… Friends went along with it?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, I’d be furious at all those “friends” who didn’t defend you.  I’m so sorry!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ummm, first I’d be furious that my partner was sharing such intimate details of our sex life with people.  It’s none of their business.

Second, those are not your friends. If they were they’d of put that loser in his place right away.

I think you need to reconsider your partner, as well as the people you call friends.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Wow, my mind is blown. Those are NOT your friends, you deserve better people in your life. I would have punched the guy in his balls after the first warning when he tried again.

Does Fiance know about this? He would be a good person to be there for you right now. I’m sorry OP 🙁

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

so sorry you went through that. how frightening and such a violation. I just wanted to say that technically you were not almost assaulted, you were assaulted.  I’d seriously reconsider calling those girls your “friends”.

Post # 8
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628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@WhoDatBee:  wow…this is really messed up. I would have a talk with my Fiance as soon as he gets home and suggest that talking about your sex life is obviously dangerous for you.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@WhoDatBee:   I’m so sorry you had to go through that.  That is not ok!  Your friends behaved abominably towards you.

Request your Fiance to from now on keep everything private between the two of you that should be kept sacred and private.

Edit:  Also, I would like to point out that you did nothing wrong in this situation, whatsoever.  I’m thanking God right now you weren’t physically assaulted in a worse way, thank heaven for that.  You are entirely innocent, but your Fiance needs to know what happened so he can help prevent it from ever happening again.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

wow. these friends would be deleted from my life yesterday. That is NOT okay, and you should never hang out with ANY of them EVER again. NOT cool.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My friends and I are all pretty open about our sex lives and sometimes we tease each other about it, but not in front of strangers and certainly not after the person has said to stop! Both this guy and your friends behaved pretty grossly.

I’d tell your friends what happened and that you were really upset to have your private life discussed in front of this guy and that they kept going after you said it wasn’t funny anymore and asked them to stop. Hopefully they will apologize right away.

How close is this guy to your Fiance where he is discussing your sex life with him?

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with PPs who say that your sex life should not be discussed with others (on your or his part but I only say that because I’m a very private person when it comes to that stuff) however it does NOT excuse this guys behavior.  I don’t care if he knew every last detail about your sex life and had had sex with you before. It still was NOT okay what he did.  Nothing you or your Fiance did is to blame for this. 

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah….you need to tell your Fiance about this…like now.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@WhoDatBee:  no you did not instigate it. that guy is a scumbag! i don’t care if you flashed your tits at him and danced around naked – he has no right to touch you without your consent.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@WhoDatBee:   ((HUGS))  I don’t think any of us means to insinuate that you or your Fiance are in any way to blame for what happened, at all.  Please don’t misunderstand about that.  We just want you to be safe and protected.  The two of you are not in the wrong here, it’s just a hard lesson learned.  And it could happen to any woman, as we all know.

We’re here for you, I’m sure that had to be a very frightening experience.

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