(Closed) almost wish I was paying for flowers myself (small vent)

posted 6 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d ignore the comment about the gift. But I would talk to her about what she considers “a lot” – ie get her to give you her preferred budget. Let her know the quote you received, and ask if she’d like you to work with the florist to bring it down.

Post # 4
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Maybe offer to help pay for some of the flowers? And I don’t think it’s odd that she said the gift would be less then. I would consider my parents paying for the flowers to be a gift already and wouln’t expect anything more. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@envirobride:  If her number is different can you guys afford to pay the difference? I agree you should have what you want (within reason), but it’s also her money, so be careful how you approach it πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh, and your Fiance will NEVER agree flowers are worth the money….guys don’t get centrepieces!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@envirobride:  So? (I mean that in the nicest way possible, btw). It’s your day, and you have a vision for it…don’t feel like you have to apologize to anyone for it if you can afford to foot hte bill and are doing so!

FI’s family’s heads almost exploded when he made the mistake of telling them what we’re spending on catering…..when you don’t plan these kinds of events often you have no idea what the costs are.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@envirobride:  LOL! That’s too funny! We are at Elsie Perrin in London…..do you want real flowers 100% or would you consider fake? I have one for both…tell me what you want I’ll PM you πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Since flowers are important to you, I don’t think you should have to settle.

If your Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t want to spend $2000 on flowers (which I totally understand) and she didn’t realize how much wedding flowers cost (I didn’t until I started talking to florists!) then maybe you can work out a compromise, like she’ll pay for the bouquets and you’ll pay for the centerpieces.

The whole “This is my one wedding day and I just want it exactly the way I want it” part comes off sounding a little bridezilla-y but we all know what you’re going through, and I think $2000 sounds pretty reasonable for flowers, especially since it’s important to you and you can afford it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

try not to stress about it, but I think it’s okay to want what you want. Tell her you really have your heart set on ____ so maybe she could pay for the bouquets and bouts and corsages and you could do the centerpieces? Or however the money would work out right?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just pm’ed you πŸ™‚

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