Post # 1
My procrastination as a Michigan bride who actually lived in Michigan got the better of me and now I’m living in Massachusetts, far from all my friends (but still with Fiance thankfully!), and still without a dress! Does anyone have any tips for a. going dress shopping solo and b. finding a place that won’t break the bank in the Dartmouth/Fall River area?
Post # 3
I live far far away from any family / close girlfriends, so I’ve gone quite a few times to the dress stores by myself. I find that the sales people are a lot more attentive to you and a lot of the time people in the other dressing rooms (and their entourages) liked to pipe in their advice about the dresses I was trying on. This one time, there was another girl there for her dress fitting with her mother, and she over heard that I was by myself trying on dresses, the mother felt sorry for me and since she was just waiting in the store, she went and picked out some dresses for me to try on… she asked me first if I wanted her help, but I was very grateful.
I guess my tip would be let the sales people know you are there by yourself and would like some help.
There was another time I went to a different store and I don’t know what I was thinking, I tried on all the dresses with bows and puffy skirts but no one was there to stop me 🙂
I’m lucky, this weekend my mom is flying out to visit me and help me make a final decision.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
If it makes you feel any better, I wish I had done my initial dress search alone. I went with my mother, and she is a little harsh with the "fat" comments, so I felt really embarassed when I didnt fit into the sample sizes they had for particular dresses, which is lame because some of the sample sizes were size 6 (thats like a street size 4 or less) but i knew that my mom wouldnt understand that and just make a dumb comment about how I needed to lose weight. That being said, I was really flustered and nervous the entire time. I ended up only trying on dresses that were a larger sample size (8-12) so that they would zip up and my mom would….zip up as well 🙂 I wished I had gone alone at first, picked some dresses I liked with the consultant, and later brought my mother or friend to help me make decisions.
I think it would be really relaxing to go dress shopping initially by yourself! But thats just my opinion. I also knew off the bat that I wouldnt care what my mom/ a friend thought about a particular dress if i fell in love with it. So if you are good at making decisions, flying solo, at least until you have it narrowed down to 1-2 dresses, is a great idea.
Good luck finding "the one!"
Post # 5
It will be fine. I had to go dressing shopping by myself and I actually liked it! It would give you more time to really think about what you like/dislike about a particular dress, without being influenced by other people’s opinions. Your friends might have different tastes than you, therefore, might persuade you into LOVING a dress that you might not be too crazy about.
Have a blast!!
Post # 6
I would suggest maybe going to a traditional bridal salon first because they’re really trained to help you find the best dress for your body. They’ll also have a variety of designers and styles that you can play with. After that, I 100% recommend VOWS in Newton. They offer samples and seconds of designer gowns for a fraction of the price. I got my Amsale gown there. They contract with a seamstress across the street for alterations, and she takes care of any issues for "free" (included with gown price). I’ve been pleased and everyone else I know who’s been there was pleased as well. But DEFINITELY have an idea of what you’re looking for first!
Post # 7
Oh honey! You’ll be fine! I had to do this too and felt really uncomfortable about it. My fiance is military and we’re hundreds of miles away from our families. (The word LOSER kept coming to mind.) But it turned out wonderfully. I agree with everything that’s been said. A lot of times the sales people are more attentive and you have plenty of time to decide what YOU really like without other’s influence. I do have to say though, that a bride away from her friends and family’s best friend is a CAMERA PHONE! I use mine almost everyday. My bridesmaids are on the other side of the country and I had the sales woman take pics (or I took them in the mirror) and sent them to my friends while i was in the store. It was so much fun and made everyone feel a part of the process. Good luck!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2008 - St. Catherine of Genoa, Jin Asian Cuisine Restaurant
Hey, there! I agree with the above posters, but would also add that salespeople are usually even more attentive if you can manage to go dress shopping during the week. As you can imagine, bridal salons are busier on the weekends, and would have more time to cater to your needs on the weekday.
Unfortunately, despite being an MA resident, I don’t have many suggestions for you. I’m located in Boston, so I can’t speak about many salons down closer to you. I’ve heard great things about VOWS, in Newton which is about an hour from where you are, but they offer pretty big discounts on designer gowns. You can check out the site here.
Sorry, I couldn’t be more help!
Good luck with your search!
Post # 9
I am in MA. And, like Miss Penguin, had to deal with an over-critcal mother who insulted me every dress I put on! So one day I did go out by myself. Its good, because you can get opinions from people who will tell you the truth – they don’t know you, and probably really don’t care what you wear! there definitely are some places you should not go in MA. I got my dress at Hillary’s in Plymouth (unfortunately living in MA my entire life I still have no idea what area you are in), and they are so sweet and helpful. I am neurotic – see previous posts – and mary really resolved any issues I had and made me feel good about anything that bothered me. Another good place is Bella Sera in middleton. my friend got her dress there and loved them! hope this helps!
Post # 10
Aw, thanks for all the help! I feel so much more better going by myself now :). Time to get back on that dress-searching bandwagon!