- 6 years ago
SO and I have had alot of pressure put on us by his parents recently. Even though I’m still in school there is alot of pressure to get married. Everytime we see them there is always comments about when we’re getting married and what’s the holdup. I thought it was a joke at first but then the comments started especially from his dad. His father is very controlling and all he thinks women are good for are baby machines. He asks me why I need to get my masters degree and isn’t a bachelors good enough. He says I must be stubborn for not wanting to get married and that he’s going to be “dying soon” and he’ll have no grandchildren. Usually I laugh it off and say oh we aren’t ready yet but I’m close to blowing a fuse.
I’ve asked SO to say something to his parents to tell them that we are waiting a few more years to get married and he has many times. I don’t know what to do anymore I’ve said everything to try and get them to realize that it’s going to be a few years but they don’t listen. My parents have never been like that with us at all because they realize we need time but his parents are the total opposite. I realize he is their oldest son and all but enough is enough.
I told my mom of my concerns and she told me just not to see them if they’re going to behave that way. I tried that for abit but they invite me and SO over for dinner a few times a month and he can’t say no to them. Sometimes I almost feel like eloping just to get it over with but I know we won’t do that cause we both want a wedding. We also recently went on a trip to New York and on the way back SO’s dad called and asked us if we went to New York to get married…I told him yes to see what that would do and he just laughs.
I’ve probably been ranting on but I need some suggestions how to get the future in-laws to relax and not put so much pressure on SO and I. Any tips or suggestions how to deal?