(Closed) Already bought a dress but can't stop thinking about Enzoani Dakota!!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I go and try on the Enzoani Dakota??
    Yes, go try it on to get it out of your system and stop obsessing over it. : (68 votes)
    35 %
    No, don't you even dare! What are you thinking trying on more dresses when you already bought one?? : (127 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Since it hasn’t been altered, maybe the dress shop will do an exchange for you? Or if the Dakota is less, maybe offering to pay them the same $3,000 still when it retails for like $2,500 will make them jump at the offer. It hasn’t been altered, so I don’t see why they wouldn’t. I don’t know how much the Dakota is, but it’s an idea. 

    You should try it on. If you’ve collected those pictures for forever, are obsessed with it, and are here doing this now, you need to go try it on and see how you feel! Otherwise you’ll be wondering/regretting it for forever. A lot of people will tell you that your dress is similar, especially after it’s altered, but it’s important how you feel about it, not how we feel. 

    On a side-note… I do like the look of the Dakota a little more. The varience of the spacing in the detail and size, instead of a smaller even pattern-look, is very lovely. 

    Go try it on, and if it makes you so much happier, try and see what the shop will do for you. If they want to suck and not help you, A) get another place to alter it if you DO decide to keep it, so you’re not giving them any more money (and make sure they know that’s why you’re doing it), or B) See if you can re-sell your new, unaltered dress and just buy the Dakota (from another shop)

    Post # 5
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I love the dress you chose. With some alerations I think it will be perfect for you. The Enzoani actually looks very similar and not necessarily better. Plus, you may lose thousands in getting a new dress and selling your current one, especially if your mom originally paid for it. She may not want to pay for another one and if she supported your original decision may be offended that you would sell the dress she bought for you!

    Post # 8
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @sofiekitty:  Well they are similar except what another poster mentioned about the spacing on the lace detail. Do you think she’d notice? 😉 You could give her your honest thoughts and ask her opinion, or try it on in secret and see if you think it’s worth the potential money lots and also upsetting your mom.

    Post # 9
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I guess they won’t return it then? Well, try and list it on a bunch of sites like right now, put up tons of pictures and details (especially of the hem and underneath, to prove that it’s never been worn, and many close-up shots from all angles, to show there’s no rips, tears, or picks anywhere), and see if you can sell it. If you can sell it for $2,300, buy the Dakota and you’ll financially break even! ^_^ It’s worth a shot?

    Post # 10
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    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I absolutely LOVE your dress the way it is, but I know if it were me and I was obsessing about a dress- I’d probably try it on. I think your dress (with alterations) looks so similar to the Enzonai  though, so hopefully if you do try the dress on, you’ll see it is no better than what you already have!

    Post # 11
    Member
    524 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    here’s my question… can you afford the enzoani with out your mom? or the money from the sale of your dress?

    Post # 14
    Member
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I’m not sure why she would be upset? Can you explain more? You’re not like… turning down her offer, you’re just… shifting it to some different fabric. ^_^

    Maybe you can tell your mom that you don’t want a dress to come between the two of you, and that you’re forever grateful her gift, and just would like to transfer her amazing and gracious gesture to a different dress, because you’ll love it even more. I don’t see why it’s the individual dress that would upset her. The gift is the money to purchase the dress of your dreams. If it’s not the dress of your dreams, I don’t see why she’d be upset if you swapped it for something different? Actually, even moreso, I don’t see why she’d be happier if you were in a dress that you were LESS happy in, rather than changing it to what you really want. That just confuses me. Plus alterations will probably cost quite a bit on top of the $3,000 already, but if you try to sell it now for $2,300 and not have to have many alterations, you’ll probably actually save money. 

    Post # 15
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    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Speaking from experience … if you can’t stop thinking about the other dress then go and try it on. While I do love your current dress, I say make sure you are 100% on the right dress for you, make yourself happy and nobody else.

    ETA: Mention the other dress to your mom and see what she says. I was in the same boat, my mom paid for my first dress. But I fell in love for another, so much I was losing sleep over it. I finally talked to my mom, she took one look at the new dress and fell in love and insisted I go and try it on.  I offered to pay for the new dress, she loved it so much she paid for it.  Your mom may understand, it’s worth talking to her about 🙂

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    23599 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Girl, your current dress is stunning!!!

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