(Closed) Already disappointed with my wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry, I can’t help reading this and getting annoyed at your Fiance. First he doesn’t want a Destination Wedding because he thinks that’s not what you want (i.e. he cares about your wishes), then he won’t even consider a 1 h trip to a wine yard because his mum got all upset?! There’s no logic to that!

 

Tell him that you either have a Destination Wedding, a wedding in a nice location outside the city (not sure where you’re located, are you thinking about the Niagara area?) or the venue you looked at – but that his mum can foot the bill in the later case.

 

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kayberry: So there’s nothing by the lakes, Point Peele, an old school house?

And I don’t buy the argument about the US, you can drive there (and pay, what $6 at the boarder if your a foreigner like me!) and stay the night. You could just block a couple of rooms in a decent hotel and have your guests stay there.

 

If he want to do it at city hall, then I would argue more for a Destination Wedding.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree… between things being too expensive for us, like gorgeous large floral arrangements, or my wedding being a compromise because I really wanted to get married somewhere else, I can’t help but feel underwhelmed by it all. 

Then I try to remember that it’s about love and forever, and all that jazz and make the best of it.  ugh.  🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kayberry:I can understand that. Well, the good thing is that you still have time! Why don’t you let things settle a little, they you and your Fiance can head over to the US during one of the long weekends and just look at places? Perhaps he comes around if he starts to get a vision of it. If that doesn’t work… well heck, then CRY – in front of him so that he understands how upset he’s making you.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kayberry: Ouch… Sounds like the venue isn’t perhaps the main thing you should focus on fixing… Sorry, I know it’s not my business – but we’re in a similar financial situation, and I would still be shocked beyond if my Fiance started to scream at me for something I can’t really do much about at the moment. Hope you manage to work through this soon!

 

And I understand about the dates filling up, but I would still try to postpone it. Your Fiance already seems to have a hard time handling things, so I would try to avoid adding more. Just for the moment, until things are a little more balanced.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kayberry: Ok, that’s a difficult situation. Especially if you feel like he has the upper hand from start. Is there something you can do to even things a little bit? I KNOW you shouldn’t have to in an equal relationship, but I personally just feel better if I can do something small to make my FI’s life easier. Like, he can’t cook for the life of him – so I always plan all the food and make sure all dinners are really nice (which he really appreciates). It all sounds VERY domestic, but I feel like it’s the one thing I can really contribute right now. Could you do something similar, to reduce the stress?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

If you would do a backyard barbecue after a Destination Wedding, why not have a backyard barbecue for your reception after a local wedding at the ceremony venue you like? 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kayberry:  I find it hard to believe that a city of over a 300,000 people doesn’t have one venue that would meet your needs.

What do the other couples who live in Windsor do?

What are your criteria for a venue?

If a barbeque reception would be ok after a Destination Wedding, why is it not ok for a reception?

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

are you frusterated because you can’t find the venue of your dreams or because you’re frusterated with your Fiance and maybe don’t want to marry him yet??

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