- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
My husband and I are planning our “wedding” for this spring/summer. We will have been married for 1.5/2 years by the time our celebration rolls around.
I have some questions regarding etiquette, as well as the logistics of our day.
Let me first describe our original wedding. My husband and I knew that we would get married some day, but decided to go through with a civil cermony for immigration reasons. My family was totally behind us, and we had a small city hall ceremony with my mom, dad, brother, sister-in law, his cousin, and his best friend (he doesn’t have family here other than his cousin). We had a dinner afterwards, and that was that. I did wear a short, city-hall esque dress (see photos here!! http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/nyc-city-hall-ceremony-038-photos-992011), we had photos taken for immigration purposes (and because we *love* photos), etc.
We did not have any other celebration afterwards, had no showers before hand, did not receive any gifts from anyone (not a card, not a celebratory drink, nothing). Everyone knows that we are married, it’s no secret, but we haven’t had any kind of big celebration.
- Having a bridal shower/registering: We have lived together for 2 years, but most of the things that I have are from my “single life”. We do have a set of fine china that my mother just bought us, but need things like new pots and pans, everyday dishes, etc.
On another note we could just have a shower, but without gifts if it’s too touchy.
- Ceremony: I don’t really consider this event a “vow renewal” because we haven’t been married for that long, and we have never had a celebration with our friends and family. Everyone knows that we are married, but I (think) we’d like to have some kind of ceremony anyway. I don’t want to pretend that we are getting married, but I would like to have some kind of *something*. I think we may do something like vows and maybe some readings, but I feel it should be slightly different than a regular wedding ceremony, as I don’t want it to be like we’re pretending/playing wedding….
What do you guys say? Treat it like a regular wedding? Or skip some stuff to avoid ruffling any feathers?
Thoughts? Experience? Advice?