(Closed) already married bees… what is your BEST advice for yet-to-be-wed bees???

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Don’t stress the details!  You probably won’t notice them the day of the wedding.

Post # 4
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Make sure your bustle is secure!!! And leave plenty of time for pre ceremony pictures, if you’re doing them…we had 3 hours and it still didn’t feel like enough time. 

Post # 5
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Don’t forget the bustle! 

Post # 6
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Something I didn’t do but wish I had: pretty hangers for my dress and the bridesmaids dresses. This was on my to-do list forever and ended up letting it slide. We still got some fantastic photos of the dresses but I know it would have been a lot easier for our photographers if they hadn’t had to shoot around the plastic hangers.

Something I did do and am unbelievably glad I did: DOC!

Post # 8
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My best advice is to assume at least five things will go wrong on your wedding day.  Then when one happens, you can say to yourself, “There’s one out of the way!” instead of, “Yikes, it’s a disaster!”

Post # 9
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hire a DOC.  DON’T be in charge on your day.  You’ll enjoy it much more.  I didn’t have a DOC… I had my mom and aunt being pseudo DOCs/family/coordinators/photographers and though it sounded good at first – I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time with them as I wanted to. 

Post # 10
5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You can manage without a DOC, but on the day of let your girls worry about it so you can be stress free! I was running around like crazy the night before, and I finally just let 2 of my girls take over. From there it was easy!

also, allow yourself at least an extra hour more than you need for anything!

And most importantly? Relax!

Post # 11
2634 posts
Sugar bee

On the day of, just go with the flow.  If something goes wrong, don’t let it bother you to the point of ruining your day.  We had a few snafu’s, but NOTHING that ruined our day, because we/I just went with the flow.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Here are the biggest ones for me:

1. have a day of coordinator! even if it is your Maid/Matron of Honor. My husband and i spentthe first hour of our reception handing out payments for our vendors…ugh.

2. let your MOH/BM know what their responsibilities are when you ask them. Mine were my sisters and they helped, dont get me wrong, but not to what i was expecting

3. Have a great “clean up/pack up” plan. My family threw away the rest of our cake because they did not have anything to put it in!!!!!!!!!!! 

4.make sure your photographer understands your list of must have photos. I just emailed them to mine and never mentioned any of them…she did not take it to seriously. BUT i did end up with amazing photos but I am missing some that i wanted.

Good Luck ladies!

So you know, no one but me noticed any of these things! it did not affect my guests at all ๐Ÿ™‚ but these are the things that would have made my day/planning a little easier. 


and the most important tip of all:

ENJOY YOUR DAY! Take a second and just look around and realize where you are adn what you are doing. It is an amazing feeling! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

The big one for me is that if there’s something that you desperately want to do, do it, no matter how much you have to fight for it. I got married over a year ago, and there are things that happened that I would do completely differently (things I wanted to do in the first place that I got guilted into changing), and I still cringe at some wedding photos.

Try not to let what other people say about your wedding, after the fact, get to you. I’ve heard only bad things about my wedding. I haven’t heard a single good thing, and I know it wasn’t that bad. However, there are some people who just can’t let go of some of the things that happened. I so wish I could have prevented some of it so I could have an overall good view of the day. Of course I don’t regret marrying my husband, and that’s the most important thing, but there’s a part of me that knows that some of the things that happened could have been prevented.

Also, try to keep calm. I know it sounds strange coming from me, but I had nerves all day leading up to the ceremony. Walking down the aisle, I found myself trying to look anywhere except at the people, just because I didn’t know what to do with myself. If I had remained calm and looked forward instead, it may not have been so awkward.

Last one I promise, but try to concentrate on the good. My favorite memories of the day are the kiss, the first dance, and me saying ‘I love this song!’ to almost every song. Smile I never do that.

Post # 15
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Keep in mind guest comfort. I didn’t do this. I worried a lot about matching paper products, and special diy details, and a lot of them were great. But the more I watch shows like 4 weddings and think about my own I think that I should’ve put greater emphasis on just basic guest comfort: DON’T BE LATE, don’t make people stand in the sun, make sure there are no bugs, smells, etc. 

I don’t think DOC are that important. Just delegating specifically. Don’t think that your bridesmaids will just take care of things. Rather give them very specific tasks. Uncle A is in charge of making payments. Friend B is in charge of putting our wedding favors. etc. 

Overall make sure you relax, smile and walk slowly for the cameras! 

Post # 16
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with all the other ladies!! DOC!! She made our day SO much easier! There were things that I know I would have forgot or at least stressed over, but I didn’t have to worry about any of them.  We hired a wedding coordinator who worked with us for the months leading up to the wedding on things, too.  She helped us with a lot of the planning etc.  It SAVED us! Made our lives WAY easier! I would totally recommend a coordinator or DOC!

Breathe! Things are going to go wrong! But, a) hardly anyone will notice and b) it won’t matter.  When you are planning a big event (like a wedding : )), things will go wrong, that’s just the way it goes.  I remember the 3 days before my wedding feeling SO overwhelmed by things that went wrong.  I finally broke into tears and said to my sister “Is this supposed to be a sign or something?”.  She was already married, so she understood and just said… “Think about how many things you are planning and how much room there is for something to go wrong.  If nothing went wrong during all of this, that would be weird.”  When I thought about it, I realized how true this was.  From then on, I decided… if something goes wrong, it’s ok! : )

I know your wedding is almost a year away, so this seems odd to start now… but start making a checklist of everything you need and what you need to bring where.  Check the list regularly and add to it anything you may have forgot.  There were things that I didn’t think of the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd time I made my list.  Keep lists with DETAILS.  Things like, who is going to get my makeup bag from the church/area of wedding to the car.  Who is going to take the gifts home. Etc., Etc. This is stuff you DO NOT want to worry about on your wedding day.

Don’t stress about people who didn’t show up.  It will happen, and it will be ok! ๐Ÿ™‚

Have a list to give your photographer on pictures that you want.  Your photography and videography are the things you will have FOREVER. Make sure to get the shots you want.

One piece of advice that someone gave us that I LOVED was this.  Don’t leave eachothers side all day/night long.  Stay together from the moment you get together till the end of the night. That way, when you look back at your memories, they are together, and none will be seperate.  I’m so glad we did this.  When my husband says, “Remember when so and so did such and such”, I can say “YEP! : )”.

Finally, don’t worry and ENJOY your day! If things go wrong, it’s ok. If you forget something, it’s ok. If someone doesn’t show up, it’s ok.  In the end you will be married to the man of your dreams, and everything will be more than ok! : )

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