(Closed) In love and married. NEED HELP.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@photojunkie:  We can’t tell you that… only you guys can know if it is true love. 

Post # 5
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1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh jeeze, I know you want to hear that it will, but it’s hard! 

I met the love of my life when I was 18.  At age 22, we broke up because I realized that I would never have a chance to “do it on my own,” and I was never going to really know myself unless I figured it out alone. 

That time was really important for both of us to figure out what we want in life.  As hard as it was, I wouldn’t trade that time. 

Fortunately, we both ended at the same conclusion: we wanted each other as a part of our lives.

We moved in together at 25 to see how compatible we are living together.  Then, 1.5 years later, he asked me to marry him.   

In all honesty, you can’t love someone else “forever” without knowing and loving every facet of yourself first.  It really depends on the couple and their maturity.  I was WAY too immature at age 20, but that isn’t to say that you are.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

If it was everlasting and true enough for tattoos on your ring fingers, why wouldn’t it be everlasting and true enough for a church and a white dress? A wedding is one day, but tattoos are forever.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

This is Weddingbee, not the Psychic Connection honey….what I can tell you is that people have such magnificent valor within them, when properly motivated that is, and when two people are motivated to stay together, well, hell or high water, wild horses and hot lava could not keep them apart…be ready to fight for it, nothing good in this life comes easy.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@photojunkie:  I’m confused. What exactly do you need advice for?

Post # 12
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5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@StephieBee:  Thank you, I’m confused as well….

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StephieBee:  Yes I have the same question.

Post # 14
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It does not seem like you have really been through “everything together” if I’m caluclating the actual time span correctly.  I always wonder what people mean when they say everything.  Some stuff you don’t want to enure (threats, name calling, violence, etc).  But getting through a job loss, loss of a parent/pet with comfrt and coming

Even at my age of 36 I’m always open to learning about relationship and how to make things better.  I could suggest a few books on marriage that you guys could read.  Mainly to just open your horizons to what makes a good marriage work.

I do however, believe strongly that love is NEVER enough to keep a relationship going.  There’s so much more to it.

Post # 15
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1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You say you are looking for help, is it that you want us to tell you we think you will be together forever?

It is obvious that your relationship has quite a few strikes against it. You are both young and inexperienced with adult relationships. It looks as though you have infidelity issues, and family friction.

If you are both committed to the relationship and each other I suppose you have a chance of making it. I wish you both luck and happiness.

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