(Closed) Already Marrieds… Lessons Learned from Wedding

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Try and enjoy the day!  It goes by so quickly!

Post # 4
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Seriously, it goes by SO quickly, relax and enjoy every moment and don’t stress out about bouquet position, etc….those things are not important. 

Post # 5
803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

my sister had a couple after her wedding;

hire a coordinator.  she didnt lift a finger for the wedding (except her manicure) for the couple weeks prior to the wedding and she said it was amazing.

stick with him. my mom actually told her this, and told me as well.  dont leave his side.  its difficult, especially because sis and i are social butterflies, but as you circulate through the cocktail hour and reception, dont leave his side, stick together.  she said it was the best advice anyone gave her.

Post # 6
7769 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Dont leave the coordinator’s side?  Or FI?

Post # 7
112 posts
Blushing bee

I would have a “must take” photography list. I was trying to be easy going about the whole thing, but I missed out on getting pictures with certain people that I would love to have. For instance, there is no picture of just me and my grandma, or even my DH, me and my grandma. 

Post # 8
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I promise you that you will not be concerned about the placement of your bouquet on your wedding day.  Leading up to the wedding I was so concerned about little details that actually didn’t matter at all.  I could have had my florist not show up at all and I wouldn’t have cared.  You will be so happy to be married and it will be such a happy day that you just won’t have time to think about anything else!

Post # 9
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

These are great tips!  Keep them coming!

Post # 10
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I would agree with the shot list. Don’t give your photographer a list of 200 pictures you want him/her to take, but do give them a list of the “musts.” you know, Bride’s family, groom’s family, bride with her grandmother…etc. Your photog isn’t going to know who your extended family is, so if you want a special picture, give the list beforehand.

Post # 11
624 posts
Busy bee

I have heard of remembering to not hold your bouquet too high, etc.

Uh, how about remember your bouquet?  LOL.

Post # 12
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We didn’t have a DJ and so we forgot to do the toasts and the first dance. Oh, and we forgot to even bring the muic :-p. But we were busy talking to people so it didn’t really matter.

In the end, you won’t stress about the things you forgot, really.

Post # 13
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think if the food’s good and the music’s good, the rest of it just falls into place. Nobody but the bride remembers anything else, anyway!

Post # 14
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

also agree with shot-list

make sure you have someone in charge of bringing gifts to the car (groomsmen are great for this)

Make sure you have champange while you’re getting ready- i totally forgot about that and was like “There’s something missing” LoL

have a tissue SOMEWHERE I had a giant snot bubble from crying during the vows (thank god no one noticed!)



Post # 15
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ TallBride – not to be mean, but I literally LOL at work when I read “have a tissue SOMEWHERE I had a giant snot bubble from crying during the vows (thank god no one noticed!)”!

Post # 16
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hire a coordinator (or designate a good friend to act as one)!  Things will go wrong (they always do) and knowing I had a person there to fix things kept me sane. 

Eat!  Get someone to make you a plate of food if necessary – I designated my planner as the person to pull me aside and make sure I ate something.

Try to make sure you have snacks/drinks for your bridal party during the picture taking session.  My father-in-law supplying beer to the groomsmen made them much more willing to stand and smile in multiple pictures 🙂 and the granola bars I gave my girls in their clutches were gone quickly!

If you can – go to your cocktail hour.  It was so nice to be able to see people and circulate before the reception.

Just remember to enjoy it all – it really does go by so so quickly.

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