- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
Please bear with me bc this is causing me much stress and is therefore, a really long post!!
So I went for my first fitting a few weeks ago. When I had tried the sample gown on, it was snug, but I knew I’d be losing some weight- so wasn’t too worried that it would be a good size for me. However, based on my measurements, they ordered me the next size up. Not worried- I knew it would be fitted to me. One thing I really loved about it however, was that since it was a little small- it hugged my curves pretty well and gave me the look of a really small waist.
Fastforward to my fitting in the larger size- (with the seamstress at the very reputable bridal shop where I bought the dress) the top is too big and the hem needed to be shortened A LOT, as well as other details, etc. So she looks at the top- asks me if I want bust pads (which I did- don’t want to have to bother with a bra), tucks those in, tells me “now it fits”, shortens the hem by about an inch and acts like she’s done!! She has me walk in the dress and I about fall over bc it’s still way too long- so she spends about 10 minutes reviewing the hem, making me walk, watching me trip, repeat. So once we finally got the hem relatively under control (thankfully my mom was there with me and knows something about sewing)– I ask about the waist, etc because she had never even checked the fit there. She tells me she shouldn’t take it in at the hips(even though I can squeeze and inch of fabric on each side) because I won’t be able to sit. Ok- I’ll give her that– but I still want the waist taken in to give me that hourglass figure I loved about the dress in the first place. So finally after some obvious frustration- she agrees to tighten the waist. But took no real measurements to do it.
So I’m going back for my 2nd fitting in 2 weeks. Maybe it will be great- but here are my biggest concerns.
#1- neither my mom or wedding party can come with me, so it’s totally up to me to handle this myslef. Now I’m not a shy girl with my opinion and what I want- but I know nothing about this subject- so I don’t feel totally comfortable on where to push back and where I just don’t know what I’m talking about
#2- the fitting is only a week before my bridal portrait- so pretty much, what’s done at that time, is what I’m going to have to deal with for my portrait- not the biggest deal, but not ideal
#3- after the portrait- I only have about 4 weeks until the wedding and the seamstress works very limited appointment hours- so we’ll be on a deadline for any final changes that need to be made
I guess I’m wondering if I’m totally unwarranted in my stress over this. I’m going to go ahead and get on the seamstresses calendar for the Saturday after my portrait (she only works 1 Saturday per month)- at least this way, I know that she’ll still have 4 weeks to fix whatever might be necessary. But I also don’t think that i should have to pay for additional alterations that have already been done at that point if they aren’t done to our specs (hem not shortened enough, waist not taken in enough, etc). Is that unreasonable? She kept telling us that she would keep working on it until it was perfect- but I’m sure she means that at additional cost to us. I just want to make sure I have my battles chosen before I get in there so that I’m prepared. As I said– maybe it will be perfect and I’m worrying for nothing- but I just don’t think it will be 🙁 what do you think??