Post # 1
I just got engaged and I’m so excited for the planning stage. My mother recently removed her wedding dresss from its protective packaging after so-many years and it looks great. I love her dress and I want to wear it for my wedding, but it has sleeves, and I’m not down with that. My mom said I could just have it altered to remove the sleeves. I hadn’t thought of that! I was excited and it would be so cool to wear my mom’s wedding dress at my wedding. Then I told my sister my plans, and she was less than enthused. While she doesn’t have any problems with me wearing the dress (she wants a more modern dress for her day) she thinks it’s insulting to my mother to change her dress, and that I wouldn’t really be “wearing her dress” if I altered it in this way. My mom is the one who suggested altering it!
I don’t know what to do! Does anyone have any experience altering a family wedding dress? What are your thoughts? Be brutally honest, is it ok to alter the dress? I know some people do, as I have seen it online, but what do YOU think?
Post # 2
If she’s happy for you to make changes, go ahead! I definitely would 🙂
If you find there are any other changes being made, I’d keep her in the loop so there are no surprises.
Post # 3
if your mom is cool with you altering it I think it’s fine! If you’re planning on doing a ’27 Dresses’ version of wearing your mothers dress, that’s a different story. Modifying the neckline and having it altered to fit you – go for it!
Post # 4
Well not to be harsh but your sister needs to take a chill pill. If you’re mom says it’s ok then I say gor for it her opinion is the most important and what a wonderful way to honor your mom. Some of us aren’t as lucky as my mother no longer as her wedding dress.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom
I completely agree with PPs. If you’re mom says it’s ok, than go for it! If my Mom still had her wedding dress, and she gave me the okay, I would have done the same thing! Her dress was a really pretty lacy dress, but I definitely wouldn’t have wanted the sleeves. Too bad she didn’t bring it over with her when she moved to the US!
Post # 6
Lol, your sister sounds a bit jealous.
It’s totally fine for you to wear your mom’s dress, and it’s fine for you to alter it if your mom agrees. She’s not going to wear it again and it’s a great tribute to her, especially if your parents’ marriage is a good one that you can aspire to yourself. Give that dress another day in the spotlight!
And please post a picture for us!
Post # 7
Your mother is letting you wear it, and gave you the green light for altering it. I see no reason why your sister’s opinion (which makes no sense, can’t be offensive if your mother suggested it) should make you hesitate. Go for it! I too am looking forward to using pieces of my mother’s dress in my own wedding.
Post # 8
If you’re mom offered it, have at it. I wore my mothers wedding dress after a few more alterations (size, shape, neckline, etc) and loved it. Just be sure to know what you want and find an AMAZING seamstress. Let me know if I can offer any more help 🙂
Post # 9
Why do you think your mom preserved her dress? She did it so her daughter can wear it one day. Your mom is so happy and honored that you decided to wear her dress, it’s going to be so special for both of you. If your mom said ok for alterations then go for it! And post your dress on the bee when done!
Post # 10
Thanks for all the positive feedback! I agree with you guys, I just needed some assurance. I told my mom yesterday that I’m sure it’s what I want. I think she’s really excited too! I don’t know what I was worried about. I will be sure to post some pictures as soon as I can. My mom is out of town so hang in there!