Post # 1
In an effort to save $$, we are considering having people RSVP via email. This would save us the need to spend extra $$ on postage, and less actual pieces would be necessary for the invitation, again saving us $$. I would just set up an email address specifically for this, maybe our first names and the [email protected] yahoo, gmail, etc. The majority of our guests are all under 60, and have internet access/email with a few exceptions: grandparents (4 in total) I can also think of one other person who may not use email, but I know her daughter does-and she also talks to my mom frequently so I’m thinking a verbal ok from her would be fine-as well as my grandparents, and I’m sure we could get a verbal confirmation via my Future Mother-In-Law for my fiance’s grandparents.
My Future Mother-In-Law seemed to have an issue with this idea because she is concerned with people not having access to internet (although the 4-5 people mentioned above are the only ones I can really think of. Even if I’ve forgotten some, it would absolutely be under 10). Although we are having a traditional ballroom wedding reception, I would not really label our wedding “traditional” We are not getting married in a church and we are also foregoing many other “traditional” things (no bouquet/garter, no best man/MOH, head table is a king’s table instead of traditional head table, pictures before the ceremony, etc)
Any thoughts?? Have any of you used email for RSVPs and how did it work out?? Thanks!!
Post # 3
My sister did this. She made me responsible for the email RSVPs. It worked fairly well but required lots of patience and organization. You WILL have to follow up with older people by phone. The email responses also won’t be uniform like on an RSVP card. People will write little notes or forget to say if they are bringing a guest, or say “I’m coming” when they are a family of 4 which makes you ask “just you, or all 4 of you?”, etc. So you should be super organized on the side with grand spreadsheet with guest names and if they got a +1 or not. Etc. Just expect to send a lot of follow up replies.
I also know that we had some people complain they kept getting an auto response that the email address couldn’t be found. They were typing it wrong, but all the same, I reccommend sending a “Thanks, we got your RSVP” response as confirmation to those who emailed.
Post # 4
Traditionally, people would write letters to RSVP, not fill out cards. So those too old to have Internet access would probably know what to do!
Post # 5
We’re going to have people either RSVP online through our Free website, or by email or phone..I’d say include your cell or home # for those that aren’t computer saavy!
Post # 6
When I got married the first time I did this and my friend who just got married did this too and we both had the same issue. When you don’t include an RSVP card people call you. When you’re in line at a grocery store and don’t have a pen they’ll call you and tell you who is coming and who isn’t and you’ll ask them to email you or text it to you instead. They never will. They’ll consider you informed, whether or not you actually remember it when you get home. So I guess what I’m saying is that if this is the route you are taking, always have a notebook with you. Always. They also emailed my mom and sister a lot for their RSVP which drove me nuts because my mom would forget to tell me and my sister wouldn’t even check hers.
Always carry a notebook and pen.