Post # 1
Good afternoon, Bees!
Question for y’all – My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years and we talk frequently about getting married (we are both 31). We are anxious to get engaged, but I think he is feeling a lot of pressure about spending a lot of money on a diamond and doesn’t really have the money right now.
He has brought up getting a lab-created diamond and I have seen a lot of Bees with Moissanite rings that look beautiful. I don’t really know a lot about either and I’m seriously considering telling him that I would be happy with starting out with either of these and then possibly upgrading later (who knows, maybe I’ll love the original and end up keeping it!)
I’m not trying to sound snobby, but I really, really, really want a diamond; however, now I’m starting to think that getting engaged and married is more important than waiting, waiting, waiting for a diamond.
Have any of you done this? What are your thoughts???
Post # 3
If you want a diamond, hold out for one. You dont even need a ring to become engaged.
Post # 4
If you feel you really want a diamond, you probably always will, but not neccesarily. You could order a loose moissanite stone to see in person. If you don’t love it send it back. In most cases, you would only pay shipping. If it doesn’t give you the same feeling a diamond would, then you know that you are probably better off waiting, or upgrading to the real later on in life when you’re more able to afford a diamond.
Post # 5
A lab-created diamond will cost about as much as a natural diamond. If you see something being sold as a lab created diamond and it’s significantly cheaper, it’s likely a cz wrapped up in fancy marketing.
Moissanite’s a great option, but I wouldn’t suggest it to people who are getting it just because it looks like a diamond – it’s not the best diamond simulant.
It sounds like diamond’s what you want, so diamond’s what you should get. It is true that diamonds are expensive, but if you go for multistone rings like 3 stones or a substantial diamond band, you can get a lot more bling for your buck. Pawn shops and pre-owned rings are other options available to you.
Post # 6
When I first started looking for an e-ring I was convinced (probably by De Beers marketing) that I wanted a diamond – no exception. Lately I warmed up to the idea of an alternative stone, not necessarily a simulant, but a gemstone (which can break the bank too actually). I’m keeping my options open.
There is nothing wrong with getting something you like now and upgrading later.
Post # 7
@sweettealove: I love Moissanite! I greatly prefer it over diamond. We got engaged in college (no budget) so we bought a pawn shop ring with a tiny diamond and then got a Moissy on it as soon as we could! Some people use it as a way to save money in the meantime and then get a diamond later on. But lots of us Bees wouldn’t traid our Moissy for anything! Here’s the best place to start looking at Moissy porn if you haven’t already: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/moissanite-moissanite-show-me-your-moissanite?replies=231#axzz2W2YmFvAt
Moissanite isn’t a fake diamond–it’s a real Moissanite! If you are looking for something cheap (but not run-of-the-mill CZ) that will very closely mimic a diamond, I would go for Asha. It’s looks more like a diamond, but it’s not a “forever” stone. Here’s a great forum that will cover Asha way better than the Bee:http://betterthandiamond.com/discussion/ubbthreads.php/forums/61/1/Asha_Forum
Hope that helps!
Post # 9
Smaller diamonds are more affordable, and can be just as beautiful (if you keep quality high) and look great on your finger. The key thing is to find the right setting that properly showcases the diamond on your finger. If your diamond is on the smaller side and your finger is on the larger side, the wrong setting will make your finger seem to swamp the diamond and ring, but a good setting will showcase the diamond properly and make both it and the whole ring look like perfection on your finger.
Other benefits aside from cost to a smaller diamond include the fact that you have a lot more beautiful settings to choose from. A lot of the very artistic or sculptural settings can only handle a diamond of a certain size maximum before their aesthetic is not working properly anymore, or cause almost all the beautiful detail of the setting to be pushed to the covered sides of the finger rather than at the top around the diamond, where it can be seen and appreciated.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I was always convinced that I HAD TO HAVE a 1 ct+ diamond in order to be engaged until a coworker got a moissanite ring (I had never heard of moissy). Then I started doing my own research and found this article:
After reading it and doing my own research on moissanite it became clear to me what my REAL “ring goals” were. I wanted a big, shiny, clear/white stone. That didn’t mean I wanted a diamond persay… it was more what society had told me I wanted.
At first I was like you and thought maybe I would get a moissanite and later I would “upgrade” it by switching out the moissanite stone for a diamond…. but now I would never even think of doing that! I LOVE my moissanite! It’s way more sparkly than any diamond I’ve ever seen, and IMO that makes it prettier than a diamond to me.
At the end of the day it comes down to what do you want? What priorities do you have? For us, we could get a diamond, but we’ve got a mortgage to pay and student loans – I have a new car (paid off woooot) but my SO is pushing 200K miles on his car… buying a diamond in the size that I wanted just didn’t make sense for us and we didn’t want to wait any longer to get engaged. We got a moissanite and now I think, “Wow, I can’t believe I was ready to drop $10K on a ring.” Actually, now I kind of feel bad for ladies that have big diamonds and didn’t know about moissanite… I wish they knew there are other options out there. I am young, but in the back of my mind I think about retirement and maybe starting a savings account for a college fund for a future child that I may have. It’s all about perspective and priorties and not caring about what others think. It’s what makes you and your fiance happy. If it means that you have to take out a loan or make payments on the ring you want… then do it if it truly makes you happy. But if you’re going to bust your butts paying off a diamond when you’ll also be paying for a wedding and a honeymoon then I think your new quest in moissanite discovery is a rightgeous path and encourage you to keep researching!
Post # 12
Thank you all so much for the advice and support! I am still a little bit intrigued by Moissanite, however, I don’t think I’ve ever seen it in person. Is it only sold online through Moissanite & Co.? Or is it sold through any retail jewelers? I’d love to be able to check it out in person…
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Charles and Colvard are the only distributers, it all comes from the CRE (maybe CREE?) factory in North Carolina. They are the only ones that currently hold the patents, but they distribute it to online retailers like moissaniteco.com, moissanitebridal.com, etc. Their website is moissanite.com, but I’m not very fond of their settings. You could always purcahse a loose stone and examine it and then see if you want to have it set in a custom setting or one that you buy from a jeweler or pawn shop. Joe Schubach does really really pretty work with moissanite, but I got mine from moissaniteco.com with no problems or regrets!
Very few jewelers carry it and are even willing to work with it. I think JCP might have had a line a long time ago, but I’m not sure about now. It’s hard to find one in person unless you know someone that already has one… many women might have them and not tell 😡
Good luck! These forums are FULL of moissy pics and advice, I’m sure you’ll be an expert in no time
Post # 14
My thing is that I really want a good-sized stone, like over a carat. It kills me to see the price on a 1.25 carat diamond and to think that I could have a ring that everyone envies for a fraction of the price is very tempting. Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to be vain or shallow in wanting a big diamond, it’s just that I’m 31 and I’ve waited a long time!! Haha.. I am, however, starting to feel a little foolish for wanting my SO to have to spend so much 🙁
Post # 15
LOVE IT! You took the words out of my mouth!
Yes, they are all made by CREE. JCP and Macy’s used to carry Moissy in stores (my center stone is from JCP), but no more big chains sell Moissy in stores to my knowledge any more. If you order from MoissCo, there is a restocking fee on entire rings, but no return fee for loose stones. A lot of people decide on two between Classic, Forever Brilliant, and Amora Moissanite, and then order two loose stones to compare. You can send them back, get a refund on the one (or both) you don’t like, and get the one you like put into a setting. Or you can keep one and have it set by a local jewler in a semi-mount.
Post # 16
You sound like a Moissy girl to me! I am SO CLOSE to ordering my new anniversary ring. I am also going with a 1.25. I think it’s the perfect size for me. I decided on Classic (unenhanced) Moissy and I can’t wait!