Post # 1
Most of the people that are coming to my wedding are engaged or married…. so that presents a problem with the bouquet and garter tosses! I am not a traditionalist in many aspects so not having these things is fine by me! My florist automatically gives me a tossing bouquet so I will take it! I have heard of some brides giving their bouquets to their mother or Maid/Matron of Honor, I suppose I could give my bouquet to my mother and the tossing bouquet to my Maid/Matron of Honor. With regards to the garter toss, I think it’s hilarious for the groom to “fetch” the garter in front of everybody, and I have a really big tulle ball gown so I want to do it. Are there any alternatives to giving away the garter or would that be wierd?
Post # 3
I think I saw this on Four Weddings, but I loved the idea so much it made me cry. They gave the bouquet to the couple who was married the longest, and asked for a peice of advice on how to make marriage last. As far as the garter, if you really want to do it, I might do the traditional toss but with all the males! 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t want to do a garter toss or bouquet toss. I’m not sure what we will do in place of it but I’m definitely not just going to do it just because. My DJ said he has other ideas so mabe you can look into other options.
i don’t think it’s must have. So do what you like 🙂
Post # 5
@sweetestsin: I like that idea! Never heard of it before.
A toss bouquet also comes with our flower package. We’re going to have the DJ tell explain that we’re doing things differently and EVERYONE is able to participate. Then the winners will be called up and we’re going to give them a gift card to a restaurant. I’m also not going to wear a gartar, so we’ll probably use FI’s bout.
Also, the gas station I work with gives rewards for loyalty points, so I’m just going to cash in my points for the gift cards, so we wont even be spending out of pocket on them.
We also wont be telling them that they’ll get a prize before hand to avoid people going overboard with trying to catch them.
Post # 6
You could do an anniversary dance for the boquet and give it to the woman who has been with her man the longest.
I just read something really cute for the garter toss, have it tossed to the married men instead of women. He can put the garter on his wife’s leg for later in the evening!
Post # 7
Honestly you don’t really NEED an alternative. We aren’t doing either, and we’re doing nothing in place of them. I’ve been to other weddings like that and it hasn’t been a big deal at all!
Post # 8
@misscomicbook Great ideas! My maternal grandmother has been married for 52 years so she will get the bouquet! 😀 I really like that idea for the garter toss! Helps that couple spice things up later that night! Hehe
Post # 9
We have a mixed group but since we know our singles will be reluctant to participate we are doing a semi tradition alternative(inspired by pinterest) The guy who catches the garter will be gifted a bottle of his favorite liquor(orabc gift card) and the girl who catches the bouquet will be gifted a prize as well(im still debating but probably a massage gift card or shopping something) it gives them an incentive to participate and that way my 4 year old doesnt end up being the only one to participate.
Post # 10
We aren’t doing either at all. We both hate them. I won’t be wearing a garter, and we’re taking the bouquets to a nursing home the next day.
Post # 11
@mra0328 I’m not sure about extra gifts, I am already pinching pennies for everything else. I will probably just give the bouquet to my mother and not do the garter toss.
Post # 12
At my wedding, I gave my bouquet to my new brother-in-law’s fiance (so, my soon-to-be sister-in-law), who was also a Bridesmaid or Best Man for me, and I gave my free toss bouquet to a Bridesmaid or Best Man that was also engaged (and I was going to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man, too). I bought a $15 garter off Etsy and that was something for me and Darling Husband to laugh at in the honeymoon suite.
Post # 13
We had a very small wedding – I think for the bouquet toss there were maybe 3 – 4 women and maybe 5 – 6 guys for the garter toss. It didn’t matter, and it’s fun to do anyway.
Post # 14
We aren’t doing either. I really wanted to replace it with something, but all I could ever find to replace them with is the anniversary dance which is just as lame to me.