Post # 1
My father passed away recently (which makes my mom “single”) and she told me there’s no way she’s standing out there to catch a bouquet. I think this tradition is a little silly and awkward anyways and would like to do away with it. I’d also like to keep my bouquet.
However, Fiance is very traditional and gets upset every time I change something to be more “modern.”
I’ve seen a lot of ideas where people attach a gift card or throw an alternate bouquet (like one made of candy or dollars). Does anyone have any feedback how to remain traditional, yet get rid of the awkward single lady bouquet toss?
Post # 3
You can make a separate, small “toss bouquet” so that you can keep yours. Personally I’d make mine from the same flowers as your bouquet, only smaller. But that’s just me.
Post # 4
Just because your mom is a wisdom does not mean she has to go out there if she doesn’t want to. The bouquet toss is generally meant for the younger set 🙂
i second the toss bouquet idea.
My Fiance is also very traditional but had no problem whatsoever getting rid of the bouquet toss and garter toss. So it may not hurt to ask your Fiance, he may surprise you 🙂
Post # 5
most brides have a toss bouquet made so they can keep their’s. that’s what i did.
and no one is obligated to go out and try to catch the bouquet, so your mom can just watch and laugh at all the single girls fighting over it, haha.
i’ve heard of some brides having an anniversary dance instead of a bouquet toss. i believe the way it works is you get all the married (or even unmarried) couples on the dance floor and as they dance, the dj periodically dismisses couples based on how long they’ve been married. so you and your new husband would be the first ones to leave the floor, then couples married for less than 2 years, 5 years, etc. you keep going until there is only one couple left (the couple who have been married the longest) and they get the bouquet. you could even throw an extra gift in if you wanted, like a gift card to a restaurant or something.
Post # 6
We skipped both the bouquet and the garter toss. Both of us had always dreaded them at weddings. No one even missed it. Just talk to him about. Think about what you really like and dislike at weddings and incorporate that into yours.
Post # 7
A toss boquet! Though the ones made of dollars that are for ALL the woman not just the single ones is super fun too.
Post # 8
We’re doing a bouquet toss that includes everyone (single, married, in between, male, female, etc). It’s in our itinerary and we’re having our DJ announce it. We’re giving away a night at the movies for two, so it isn’t limited to single ladies.
Post # 9
I’m just skipping the bouquet toss all together. Hopefully nobody will even notice! I’m relatively traditional too, but I feel like I don’t want to stop the momentum of the band or the party in general for something that I think is silly and outdated to begin with. I’m also forgoeing the garter thing, too. Personally, I don’t really need my groom crawling up my dress in front of my close friends and family. Thats for later that night, behind closed doors! 😉
Does your Fiance even know about the bouquet toss? I wonder if anyone would notice if you just casually skipped over the whole thing to begin with!