Alternative to carrying a bouquet?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

veganeh :  Aww thank you! So glad that was helpful 🙂 Welcome to team no carrying, haha.

Yeah with every other wedding cliche being questioned (cakes, veils, white/ivory dresses, bridal party traditions, etc) I’m not sure why bouquets still seem so nearly universal! I do like flowers but I think a flower crown, lei, or corsage can be a great bridal look without tying up your hands. (Didn’t work for my look but I thought about it.)

My mom was really concerned that my bridesmaids would be unhappy about not having bouquets or something to carry, so I brainstormed it with them. They seemed OK with it, but they were worried about the heat, so they ended up carrying white silk fans. 

Post # 18
2755 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I carried a bouquet, but I linked my other arm through my dad’s when he walked me down the aisle. It was awkward to coordinate, I agree it looks more natural to walk without carrying anything!

Post # 19
866 posts
Busy bee

I had a bouquet. Discovered that I prefer them in a vase. Lugging that thing around was a pain.

Post # 20
4244 posts
Honey bee

I had a bouquet, but I knew I would feel awkward if I didn’t have something in my hands!

Are you having someone walk you down the aisle, or do you tend to be a weird awkward mess like me? I think as long as you won’t feel weird and like “ahh, what do I do with my hands!”, you absolutely don’t need one. I like the idea of carrying something else (maybe a parasol since you’ll be somewhere hot?) or also just not having anything if you don’t want. 

Post # 21
2460 posts
Buzzing bee

carry puppies! Like that on bride. Omg the cuddles!

But in all seriousness I considered not carrying anything but decided I wanted a bouquet. I don’t think anyone will care. The walk down the aisle you will probably be holding onto someone (dad’s hand or something), during the ceremony you won’t have the bouquet anyway/will be holding on to your SO and your walk back down the aisle will be with your SO. And then the reception and you won’t be holding the flowers there either. So I don’t think they are needed. 

Post # 22
97 posts
Worker bee

I carried a small leather notebook in which I wrote my vows, with a flower ornament that matched flowers I wore in my hair. The notebook came from Oberon Designs. I gave the notebook to my husband and every anniversary I write something new  in the notebook. photo credit Stacy Keck.

Post # 23
66 posts
Worker bee

I would probably fidget too much without something to hold in my hands, but if that’s not a problem I say go without! It looks so much more natural without and I love that! 

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