(Closed) Alternative to Sand Ceremony and Unity Candle

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The wedding itself is about unity. But if you want a mini-ceremony, your options are endless. Handfasting, wine ceremony (communion), 7 blessings for a Jewish wedding, etc.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re doing a stone ceremony.  As each guest enters the ceremony site they’re given a small polished stone.  During the ceremony the officiant asks them to place a blessing on the stone for the couple.  Someone collects the stones, they’re all combined at the altar and then the bride and groom add their own stones.  Voila!  Box of rocks!  We like it because it involves our community in our marriage commitment.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is a great idea! Rose quartz would work beautifullly since it is associated with romantic love, and the polished stones are not difficult to find for sale.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I googled “unity candle alternatives” and I got tons of links:

http://weddings.about.com/cs/style/a/unityceremony.htm

http://everybridesbestfriend.blogspot.com/2009/02/unity-candle-alternatives.html

http://www.ehow.com/way_5278363_wedding-unity-candle-alternatives.html

 

I saw a post on Offbeat Bride once where the guests were all given small bunches of flowers. When the bride came in, they all stood and formed an aisle. As she walked in, she collected all of the flowers from everyone and they formed her bouquet. The last bunch was from her groom. I thought it was an amazing idea.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

The other day, I actually stumbled across an old post on WB about an alternative to the unity candle. The couple write love letters to each other beforehand (but don’t show them) and, during the ceremony, seal them in a box with a bottle of wine and two glasses, to be opened on a certain anniversary or when there’s a rough patch in the marriage and they just need a reminder of why they fell in love.

I so dig this idea! Told Boyfriend or Best Friend about it and he likes it too!

Here’s the original post: http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/05/06/an-untraditional-tradition/

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am not sure of the size of your wedding, but we only have 65, so we are doing a ring warming.  Our wedding bands are passed thru the hands of each of our guests and we ask them to put all the love, best wishes, sweetness, hope and joy into the warmth of their hands.  They are then passed back to us to exchange.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

@suttonista: I was just going to suggest this! I have read about it, but never seen it done. Sounds wonderful!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are doing a Truce Bell. It is an Irish Tradition. The Pastor/Officant blesses the bell and then we think of happy thought of our future. It is later displayed in the home as a reminder of the wedding day when things get rough. = )

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Regina Phalange: Letters to remember why you fell in love… so cute! I love that idea.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@SVC.love: Same here! And if it’s not used during the ceremony, it would still make a great time capsule project!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We used a tree ceremony where we bought a potted tree around 4 ft tall and mixed soils from both of our parents homes on the top.  The tree is now planted in our front yard.  🙂  

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Regina – I just sent that idea to FH, to see if he likes it!  I have never heard that before.  He HATES the idea of sand and unity candles…

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