Post # 1
My Fiance and I want to do a unity ceremony. Here’s where it gets tricky: my Fiance wants a “keepsake” from the unity ceremony (i.e., something that we can display in our home after), but I don’t really like the sand unity ceremony because I think it’s been overdone, we’re not beach people, and I’m just not crazy about sand as a thing (I primarily associate it with getting stuck in uncomfortable places on my person :-P).
So with all that said… do you have any ideas as to alternative unity ceremonies we could do?
Thanks in advance!
Post # 2
Depending on what type of style you’re going for, there’s a unity candle ceremony, a tree planting ceremony, a knot tying ceremony…
Post # 3
What about a handfasting? My wife and I braided our own fasting cord together, and it’s a beautiful keepsake from our ceremony.
Post # 4
Were doing a cord of three strands ceremony and got a wooden sign made to keep in our home!!
Post # 5
ring exchange. Then you get to wear the keepsakes ALL THE TIME! 😀 but seriously, I don’t get “unity” ceremonies (unless there are children involved and then it can symbolize unifying the whole family instead of just two people). The whole ceremony is a unity ceremony…and exchanging rings is literally “here’s a symbol of our unity”. More than that just seems silly.
Post # 6
We did a wine box ceremony. We each wrote each other notes and also had our parents write us notes and we put the notes and a bottle of wine into a chest and sealed it. We had our officiant state that we would open it on either our fifth anniversary or earlier if we went through hard times and we could drink the wine, read the letters and remind each other how much love we have for one another. Well we are coming up on year four and the box is untouched so *knock on wood* I see us opening it on our fifth anniversary as kind of a cool time capsule thing. We also kind of decided that it would be the first thing to be set in each new home we’ve moved to (3 in 4 years) I didn’t like the idea of a candle or sand and we are kind of wine people.
Post # 7
I love the idea of the planting a tree to symbolize starting your new life together. I think it’s practical and something you will have as keepsake afterwards.
Post # 8
handfasting. We are doing in and our rope will be in a shadowbox after the wedding.
Post # 9
I’d LOVE to do something like that, but the thought of me killing it and therefore metaphorically killing our marriage terrifies me!
Post # 10
I have some relatives who branded their initials on a piece of wood. They actually had something like 3 unity ceremonies, so it was pretty ridiculous by then, but that one’s nice for keeping around – you could get one a good size/shape for a trivet or centerpiece stand on your table, for instance.
Post # 12
We’re also doing the wine box ceremony! we’re opening it it 10 years and we’re putting in a bottle of wine, and love letters to each other of our feelings leading to the wedding day. It’ll be opened on the anniversary and we’re not doing the “open after your first big fight” thing, sounds too negative to me. The officiant will announce this. Everyone we mentioned this too found it to be so romantic and said they’re going to cry at the ceremony lol (we know some emotional people). We were thinking it would be a great keepsake to open during our vow renewal if we decide to have one. We even made the wood box ourselves!