Post # 1
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Helper bee
If someone had ideas & suggestions that would drastically reduce the cost of your wedding, would you consider this as an alternative to the traditional wedding? I’m talking very extreme and to a large extent, non-conservative. To give you an idea, this would entail cheap to zero cost venues, non-traditional wedding attire (dresses not designed for weddings), alternative metals and/or stones for engagement and/or wedding rings, and lots of DIY effort. This also means avoiding anything, anyone, and anyplace that uses the words “wedding” or “bridal” as much as possible.
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
On some aspects, yes. Stone ring? No.
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Do what you want. Research what is availble for parties in the area, find dress of any kind and just have a day you want. All you really need is a marriage certificate, officient and witnesses (in most areas in the US).
Edit- if you even want dress at all
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This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by theatrejulia.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
theatrejulia: I’m not the one that’s “doing” anything. I’m taking a poll for reasons that have nothing to do with me. If you don’t wish to participate, kindly move on.
Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
quantumleap48: So you are not asking for yourself? You are just asking us if we would or if we have seen alternative weddings? Your question is not clear.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
theatrejulia: > So you are not asking for yourself?
Yes; that is correct.
> You are just asking us if we would or if we have seen alternative weddings?
No – Please scroll back up and read the question again.
> Your question is not clear.
If you read and interpret the question correctly, it should be more than clear. It’s not at all a difficult question.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I was going to reply because this is pretty much what we are doing to save a lot of money, but I won’t bother as the OPs replies to other posters are so rude.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
karamellokoala: I’m sorry your perceive it in this manner. My intent had been to be clear, not rude. I was also responding to only one person who indicated she did not understand the question.
Post # 10
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Newbee
You’re not going to get far with that attitude, bye Felicia
Post # 11
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Worker bee
quantumleap48: Both of your responses could very easily be perceived as rude. Your question is not clear either.
To reply to it though, I am going to Vegas to have a desert ceremony (free venue) while on my ‘honeymoon’. SO and I had already booked a trip to california for a month when he proposed – we’re from Ireland. So we have decided to incorporate the wedding into it and call it our honeymoon. We will have a handfasting ceremony, I got my dress online super super cheap, I will be using flowers and herbs to make my own bouquet, and I’m thinking (since were in the States and SO LOVES donut) we’ll construct our own donut tower cake! He’s getting a tattoo for a ring, and the only thing costing us is having to feed the family who are coming over. Also, I will probably get a photographer as I am a visual person and like photo memories. I will handmake: invites / bouquet / floral crown. Hope that helps.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
oh… I clicked maybe before reading thinking you meant really ‘non-traditional’ stuff like wearing black, not having a food reception, no rings/veils/garter, no cake, not saying vows, no bridesmaids/groomsmen, no old-new-borrowed-blue ect…
but actually im doing all what you said:
* no cost venue (just food prices)
* non tradirional wedding attire (short country dress)
* carved gem stone wedding ring
and I just thought it was common sense to avoid the word wedding
we are also dropping some traditions like being ‘given away’ (im not an item) and veils/gaters/cars but we will still be quite traditional in the actual day (wedding party, vows, rings, sit down reception + dance reception, cake cutting and so on so it is still obviously a wedding)
Post # 13
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Helper bee
OP, if you can’t even “interpret correctly” that you are being rude, maybe you aren’t as smart as you (clearly) think you are.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
quantumleap48: the fact that I wasn’t the o my way to perceive it in that manner means that you were being pretty blatantly rude. Whatever, I don’t care. As you’re not doing anything anyway I don’t understand why you were even asking.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
- Wedding: November 2016 - Muhlhauser Barn
karamellokoala: I seriously think this is the funniest meme I have ever seen in my life. Im saving it on my computer for future use. lol
