Post # 1
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Newbee
I have always found the garter toss at weddings hugely uncomfortable and don’t want to do one at my wedding. My fiance also hates them for being incredibly distasteful. Just the idea of him reaching up my shirt in front of our grandparents and the kids in the family plus the fact that it’s literally throwing a piece of my underwear into a crowd of our single friends.
I do however still want to do a bouquet toss so I have tried looking up alternatives for the garter toss. However most alternatives that come up are for both the bouquet and garter toss which is not what I want. The only strictly garter toss alternative I’ve found is a little black book toss which I also don’t like at all.
I guess I’m asking for help here because I don’t know what to do. Is there some alternative we can do that doesn’t imply that my incredibly sweet and respectful fiance has a book filled with his exes/ random chicks numbers? Can we do just one? Should we just do something else, besides the tosses, entirely and if so what?
Post # 2
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Honey bee
Don’t bother with any alternative. I haven’t seen a garter tossed, in over a decade. I’m sure no one will miss it. (My daughter has never seen a garter toss).
My family/social circle doesn’t toss anything. The last bouquet toss was a few years ago, and no one would go out on the dance floor, to participate.
I was married in the late 1970s and I didn’t toss anything. (And yes, I’m still married).
Post # 3
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239 posts
Helper bee
I had a friend who got married last year, she didn’t do the garter toss but she did do the boquet toss. You don’t have to do both, yes these are traditions, but it’s your wedding, you can decide what you want to do. Honestly, I don’t think anyone will care if you skip the garter toss. More time for dancing if you cut that!
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I think you are totally fine to just forgo the garter toss instead of finding an alternative.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
We did a bouquet toss and did not do a garter toss. Nobody missed it. I personally think garter tosses are gross.
Post # 6
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215 posts
Helper bee
I honestly can’t remember the last wedding I attended where they did the garter toss. I’ve been to some that did just the bouquet toss and a few that didn’t toss anything. I agree with previous posters. Just forego the garter toss. There’s no rule that says you need to do both.
Post # 8
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Newbee
Thanks everyone I’m reassured in the choice I was leaning towards. I think I was second guessing myself because I just went to a friends wedding last month that had one and then my dad was jokingly upset to find out we were skipping it since it ruined his plotting of having Fiance specifically throw it at someone in the family.
No garter toss for us.