(Closed) Alternatives to a head table / sweetheart table?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

The last wedding I went to, the bride and groom sat in regular rounds with some of the bridal party.  Others in the bridal party sat at another table.  Everyone in the bridal party got to sit with their SO, so it wasn’t a big deal.  Don’t worry about slighting certain people in your wedding party – you’ll only really be sitting for dinner and the rest will be up and mingling about (or dancing!!)

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Good question! My size/shape of the area in my venue won’t allow us to have a long head table either so I’ve been thinking about what to do…hopefully some people who have done this already have suggestions!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

it’s your wedding, you should sit with who you want to! i’m sure your wedding party will understand why you don’t want a huge head table, and they wont be offended if you just sit with your moh and bm. i also don’t want a sweetheart or head table for the same reason, i don’t want to be put in a place where people are going to be looking at us all night long, but we have a smaller bridal party so we’ll just sit with them at  round table.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are doing a version of the head table where there is a sweatheart table with two long tables coming off the sides for the wedding party – I am not sure if this is out of the question for you too!

If you do still want to do a head table I have seen two layers of head tables where the back table is up on risers above the bottom table (good for large wedding parties)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We just sat at a table like everyone else. We sat with my MOH/Sister, her husband and baby, very old family friends, and a couple who had flown in from the UK. It was sort of random, but no one was even remotely offended and we had a nice time. You won’t really be able to sit and enjoy your whole meal, since you probably will “make the rounds” during dinner. So I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You could always sit at a round with you and your FH’s parents/grandparents.  I don’t think anyone would be offended by that.  Of course, some of us wouldn’t want to spend the entire evening sitting with our parents, but you’ll probably only be at your table a short while since you two have to participate in so many other events that night.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We sat with our Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man and their spouses, plus two other friends that were not in the bridal party at a round table in the middle of the dining room.  We split the rest of the bridal party up at different tables with different groups of friends.  I think it worked out great!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I think it’d be a great idea to just sit at a regular table with your family and whoever you want to be with you! I definitely think that all of the other attendants would understand.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re doing what you’re considering.  We’re sitting at a table with my sister (MOH), her boyfriend, FI’s brother (BM) and his brother’s girlfriend.  And then the wedding party and their dates are sitting in surrounding tables.  That way everyone can sit with their dates and we don’t have to sit alone!

We also have WAY too large of a wedding party to do the long table thing.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

We’re sitting with some of our bridal party. I find head tables boring to sit at, and I’d like people to be able to sit with their SOs… we have 13 attendants and most of them have dates, so we’re having some of them at our table (the people we enjoy talking to the most, although most of them won’t fit so we had to be selective ;), and the rest at any of four other tables. We spread them out because they are not all close with each other and we thought it would be better to sit them with people that they either already know well and like or where we thought they would enjoy the conversation the most.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think having your Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man is a sweet idea! Just let your other attendants know you want them to sit with their SOs but can’t have such a huge head table!

I’ve also seen head tables which consisted of the parents and siblings of the bride & groom (both sets of parents were still together, and there were only 4 siblings, all single, so it worked out easily).

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i like the idea of sitting with the parents and the grandparents.  it would be really nice because this is a special day for them as well and they will get to be close and personal and watching you enjoy your first hours as husband and wife.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Since my fiance’s parents’ table and my parents’ table are not completely full, we’ll be spending half time at his parents’ table and the other half at my parents’ table. Our wedding party just sits with their friends at other tables.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was not wanting to do a sweetheart table at first because I didn’t want to be in the spotlight so much (I guess you already are on that day though) but then someone pointed out, this is one of the few times where you and your husband are only for the day, and it is nice to have that time to eat and talk about the day.  I’ve also heard it makes you less approachable, and then you make the choice to get up and go visit all the guests. 

Anyone do a sweetheart table and find this to be true?

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