Post # 1
Happy New Year, Bees! We just booked our venue last week (for a date one month earlier than we thought) so now I am in full planning mode. Today the topic is the ceremonial toss. I’m not a fan. I do not like the idea of a single guy in his 20s potentially putting the garter on one of my teenage nieces. Eew. I also know how it feels to be one of the only single girls forced to fight for the tossed bouquet. Would it be weird to not include this tradition at all? If so, does anyone have any alternate ideas? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated : )
Post # 3
We didn’t do either the garter or bouquet toss. We didn’t substitute anything for them, but I did consider giving my bouquet to a guest who is getting married this year (the BM’s fiance), but decided against as she may not have wanted the attention!
Post # 4
We didn’t have a bouquet or garter toss, and the only person who complained was my sister (who I think was trying to hint to her boyfriend).
However, I do really like the idea of an anniversary dance instead of a bouquet toss. The DJ/MC announces that all married couples should come to the dance floor. Every 15-20 seconds he/she announces for couples married for a certain length of time to leave the floor (e.g. “Now, couples who have been married less than 5 years can leave the dance floor,” 10 years, 15 years, etc…). At the end, you present the bouquet to the couple who has been married the longest. I think it’s a nice way to recognize the married couples in the room. 🙂
Post # 5
Nope, not weird. The bouquet and garter toss are not our cup of tea, and we aren’t going to be replacing it with anything. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m not a fan of either toss – I loathe it actually – and I thought I would omit it until I went to a wedding last year where she had neither and there was something definitely lacking about the reception – everyone commented on it (and we are not a toss-loving kind of crowd). Because of this, I’m changing my mind and having at least a bouquet toss – opening it up to everyone (men & women, any status) and having a prize (like a $100 gift card) to the winner of the toss.
Post # 7
Oh oracle I love that idea of the prize!! What about you could wear the garter…take it off and just hand it to your groom (in private) and then he could toss it. And you could have all women for the bouqet and all the men for the garter and then instead of $100 gift card you could just ldo $50 for each…like $50 to Target or TJ Maxx or something like that OR if you know a lot of people love coffee you could do $25 to STarbucks for each toss? Im not a fan of the garter thing because I think its awkward to have your husband reach up your skirt in front of tons of family (sometimes with his teeth)!!!!!!! It feels very inappropriate….and this is coming from a very open person!
Post # 8
If you don’t want to do a bouquet toss and are still planning to get a second throw away bouquet, you could honor the oldest woman attending your reception by presenting her with the bouquet.
Post # 9
For my first wedding, we tossed both the bouquet and the garter. It was pretty awful. I hated the message that all of the single women were supposed to be desperate to be married, while the guys were actively avoiding catching the garter.
For my second wedding, we did not have either a bouquet toss or a garter toss. Because we had a same-sex wedding, there were two bouquets. We gave one to my former sister-in-law, who was the only guest who lived in the area. We gave the other to the staff of the synagogue where we were married. The garters stayed firmly in place the whole time.
Post # 10
Real Simple Weddings had a suggestion about making “a bouqet out of lottery tickets, movie passes or restaurant gift certificates and lob it to a coed crowd of guests as a real, good-luck token.”
Post # 11
I love the idea of making a bouquet out of lottery tickets! We aren’t doing a garter or bouquet toss either. 🙂