Post # 1
We’ve been back and forth about whether we’ll do the traditional bouquet and garter toss at our wedding. A lot of our friends attending are already engaged and getting married next summer, so there’s only a handful who will be eligible.
The anniversary dance sounds good in theory, but all grandparents are passed and the aunts/uncles who are coming have been married for about the same amount of time.
I came across an idea for a “couple’s dance” as a way to get people on the dance floor and feel included. All the couples dance at the same time before the DJ starts counting UP: “Everyone who has been together for 2 years, stay on the floor… 6 years… 10 years…” etc. That way everyone is included whether married, engaged, or dating. The only people not included are the single guests.
What do you see as the pro’s and con’s of this? Has anyone come across any better ideas?!
Post # 2
we didn’t do a bouquet or garter toss. No one missed it
ETA: I don’t think it’s necessary to replace these things with something else unless it’s something you really want to do
Post # 3
Us, too. We skipped both and didn’t replace them with another activity. It all went very smoothly.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
We’re skipping both and not replacing them with anything.
Post # 6
We were going to do the Anniversary Dance but when we asked my husband’s grandparents about it (because we knew they were the longest married couple invited) they said they would rather not. So we ended up just skipping it. I don’t think anyone missed any of it.
Post # 7
We just didn’t do either and I’m pretty sure it wasn’t missed. You can do whatever you want for your wedding!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2018 - Historic Mansion
Not a big fan of either so we are skipping those and were skipping the shoving cake in each others face.
Post # 9
We did the anniversary dance at my cousins wedding and it was cute for me because my grandparents, aunts and uncles and great aunts and uncles have all been married a long time and it was adorable to watch them. Except we realized afterward almost NONE of the grooms family had marriages anywhere close to as long as the brides side, all had divorced and remarried older in life so it ended up a bit awkward when it was only her side left for half the dance. So know your crowd if you do this!
I dont know of many people who would miss a couples dance or toss if you just dont do it at all.