Post # 1
Has anyone got some fabulous ideas on how to recognize my friends other than the traditional role of BM? I love my girls, but the girls I would ask live in 5 different cities in 3 different states so I know there’s no way they could attend all of the traditional wedding activities. We’re also all young and mostly beginning in our careers (24-25 years old and all but one of us is in grad school) so I hate the thought of asking them to spend travel money on top of traditional Bridesmaid or Best Man expenses – and I cannot afford to pay for them, or I gladly would.
Any ideas? Am I the only one that has wrestled with wanting a way to recognize your friends w/o it being the traditional Bridesmaid or Best Man role?
Post # 3
Geographical distance shouldn’t stop you from considering the Bridesmaid or Best Man role for your girls! Mine live in 3 different countries (my Maid/Matron of Honor is actually the furthest of them all in HK), and only one is actually in my state. We’re also young and budget conscious. Honestly, this was not an insurmountable obstacle. You can keep their costs of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man down by letting them choose their dresses and accessories and not asking them to do pro hair and makeup. If you think that it’d be too much of a hassle to do a shower or bachelorette party, just make sure they know you’re not expecting either. Who knows, maybe a few of your girls will want to get together and plan something anyway, and if not, that’s not really what being a bridesmaid is about, right? I assume they’ll all be coming to the wedding, so that means they can stand up with you at the ceremony. That’s really all that matters, In My Humble Opinion.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2011 - in the woods
When my friend was married, her five bridesmaids all lived in separate states and were around the same age as yours. We weren’t able to attend all of the events, but we rented a cabin to stay at the night before the wedding. After the rehearsal and dinner, the six of us girls went on the town by ourselves and had such a wonderful time celebrating my friend’s last night as a single lady! When we returned to the cabin, we surprised her with bachelorette gifts. The next morning, we were able to have fun getting ready for the wedding together.
All that to say…I wouldn’t let distance stop you from having your friends as bridesmaids if you want to! Like GirlWithaRing suggested, and my friend did, have your girls pick out their own dresses. If you’re concerned with the finances, perhaps you can have them wear black dresses; most girls already own a little black dress or would love a reason to buy another! And then just celebrate all together the night before the wedding so they only have to buy one ticket.
It’s so thoughtful of you to think of your friends’ financial situations! I’m sure it means a lot to them; as it would to me! Best wishes with everything!
Post # 5
GWAR and Jess said it all there. I’m too tired to write how much I agree!