(Closed) Alternatives to candle/sand ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What did you do for your ceremony?

    Unity Candle

    Sand Ceremony

    Love Letter Box

    Wine Box

    Mixed a Cocktail

    Knot Ceremony

    Broom Ceremony


  • Post # 3
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @jenilynevette:  i kinda of like the sand ceremony – alto i fee a lot of people do it wrong… i feel “as the two different colors represend each of you as you pour it into the 3rd container the sands will never be able to be seperated bla bla…” BUT i hate how people pour it, its still a big chucnk of each color…so i seen this…an hourglass!(first link)(im not sure you can use it but if you rotate it a few times the grains of sand become even more mixed creating a unity of both colors)  i like this better then the regular sand ceremony…we mite do this….OR a painting….(second link)



    http://img1.etsystatic.com/000/0/5988113/il_fullxfull.176913913.jpg?ref=l2 (we mite not be able to do this at our ceremony because its at an outdoor museum and they mite not like the idea of “spilled paint” at their location :/ 

    Post # 5
    4813 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @jenilynevette:   Not sure yet but we’re thinking about handfasting.  

    Post # 6
    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I did a time capsule which is basically the same as the love letter/wine box. it was fun to do and I can’t wait to open it up!

    Post # 7
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I gave up the fight, and we’ll be doing a unity cocktail. Apparently all our friends think it will be hilarious, and it’s one thing my Fiance has fought for. So we’ll be mixing a drink. Not sure what though! We’re gonna buy a nice glass and get it etched with our names and wedding date and nice bottles to pour out of so we’re not just using the bottles the booze comes in. And then we’ll be offering the same drink as our signature cocktail.

    But I love the idea of the love letter box, with wine glasses and a bottle of wine. It seems like such a cute idea. That’s what I wanted to do!

    Post # 9
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    @jenilynevette:  yeah my Fiance fought so hard for it, and it does fit our personality (we host weekly cocktail nights with our friends where we try out different drinks), so I decided what the hell. My Fiance is so excited for it, so i’m letting him pick the drink, and i’ll be doing the containers in it. We’re gonna put a little write up about it in our program, as well as have our officiant do an intro about it. I think it’s gonna be a unique, cute part of our ceremony! And I get to have a drink to take the edge off haha

    Post # 11
    11500 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We had a unity sand ceremony with three colors.  The pastor poured white sand on the bottom and top to represent God being both the foundation of and head of/covering for our marriage, and my DH and I took turns pouring our own colored sand into the vase in between, while two of my friends sang.

    I can see how people would think this ceremony is overdone, because, although my wedding was the first time I had ever seen a sand ceremony, I’ve been to a number of weddings since where this has been done.

    However, what I love most about our unity sand is the fact that every time I dust under and around that vase, I am not only reminded of our wedding, but also I create additional vibrations that further combine the sand (representing the affect that our years of marriage have had on bringing us closer), and I am reminded that, in good times and bad, no matter what, I can NEVER get my own sand back out of that vase without also taking a whole lot of my DH’s sand with me and leaving a whole lot of my own with him. It’s a very powerful reminder of the oneness and lifetime commitment that was created on our wedding day.

    Post # 12
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Our ceremony will include a “stone ritual” part. I bought a beautiful vase in the form of a heart and in it we will put stones that are the color white. Each guest will be invited to take a stone before entering the hall where the ceremony will  be held. They will hold on to the stone during the ceremony up until the officiant says they should hold it in their hands and make a wish for us. Then, someone will go around and have the guests place their stone in the heart shaped vase and then it will be  brought up to us. We will place the vase on the main table and then bring it home where we will keep it for the rest of lives, remembering only positive wishes emanate from these stones.


    I saw the stone ritual thingy done on tv when I was very young and I always thought it was a beautiful idea. Fiance also thinks its nice especially since my center pieces are vases filled with water and all kinds of colored stones, a flower and a floating white candle, all placed on a miror. I tried it out and really they look lovely.

    Post # 14
    3552 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

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    @Lauraine:  We’re doing a stone ritual thing too. My dad is polishing the rocks for us because rock tumbling is his hobby. We figured we’d multi-task and use the stones to keep the programs on the chairs (our wedding is outside). I think we’re going to do it at the end of the ceremony as a combo recieving line and have people bring the stones up to us so we can hear the sentiments/wishes that the stones carry.

    Post # 15
    1119 posts
    Bumble bee

    We were going to just do the traditional unity candles but I had always wanted to do the untity cross since the first time I had seen it and then I found it at hobby lobby for a total steal so we are doing that! It’s really awesome this is the discription 

    The Unity Cross is a multi-piece sculpture that is assembled during the Unity Service of your Wedding Ceremony representing how the -Two become One. The Groom places the outer Cross in the beautiful wood base as the Pastor explains how God created man- Bold, Strong, the Defender of the Family yet how he is empty and incomplete without the woman. The Bride then places the more delicate cross inside of the Grooms cross as the Pastor explains how God created Woman- Delicate, multi-faceted, taking care of all of the little things that completes the man, and the -Two become One. The Bride and Groom then use the 3 golden pegs to lock the union(cross) together in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit as the pastor exclaims that: What God has brought together let no man take apart. Then the Unity Cross is taken home and displayed as a Daily Reminder of your Wedding Day and the Covenant that you both have made.

    Post # 16
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I found this video while looking at wedding venues in my area, and totally love their paint the wood sign ceremony! I really wnat to do this! 


    (For those of you don’t want to watch the whole video, its at 8mins – But I highly reccomend you watch the whole thing! OMG it makes me cry every time and I don’t even know them!)

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