Post # 1
I don’t think I want to have any dancing at the reception. I just never really enjoyed the dancing part at weddings, so I don’t see why I would have dancing at my own wedding. I just want to spend time mingling with my guests 🙂
Has anyone else skipped dancing altogether? Any ideas what we can do after dinner/cake cutting/toast?
I didn’t think it would be a problem to just mingle and eat/drink for the entire time, but others think I should provide something to do for the guests or they just might start leaving. We thought about hiring a caricature artist for a few hours, doing a paebek ceremony (I’m Korean, but my finance is not, so it might be fun), karaoke, or having a gaming area (rock band or guitar hero). What should I do?
Thanks in advance for your suggestions!
Post # 3
I think it’s totally fine to do something different if you don’t want to set up a dance floor. The gaming area is a brilliant way to bring things into the 21st century for those that would be interested.
For those who think everyone will leave if there’s no dancing, point out that at most weddings, there’s always a big group of guests who leave the minute the dancing starts because they’re not into dancing. So either way, people are going to leave when they want to no matter what.
At our wedding, we had a dance floor, but also set up a lounge area with big ottomans and low cocktail tables. We also set up a foosball table, pool tables and tall cocktail tables around the games …all of this in an effort to get people up from their tables and mingling, and have something else besides dancing.
Incorporate things that you like and your guests will definitely appreciate it.
Post # 4
I would at least have some music, weather you pre program a playlist on iTunes or something, back ground noise is always good!!!
I do have to say that I would be a little taken aback if I arrived to not find dancing to be apart of the respection at all (brain washed…lol wedding = dancing! LOL), a lot of people look forward to it and you may be questioned through out the night on it. Maybe you could offer it, but not as the "main entertainment" – as some might really want to dance…just a thought.
I think kareoke sounds fun but that (and this is JUST me) the gaming thing seems to not fit with weddings. I know I woulnd’t want to arrive to a wedding, dressed formally with my Fiance and have him off playing video games all night. It sounds like more or a grooms dinner thing, if anything at all. I try to get my man to STOP playing so we can go out….know what I mean?
At least the kareoke gets everyone involved and having a good time togheter and will spark intrest to most everyone there – even those who don’t sing will have fun watching others make fools of themself! Plus – who says people coulnd’t dance while people sing!
Post # 5
I am in the exact same boat. Fiance and I aren’t dancers and our space really doesn’t allow room for a dance floor. I was worried at first but then I remembered that the last three weddings I attended didn’t have dancing either. We are still going with background music. When people ask I tell them we hadn’t planned on it but I am not going to stop them either. Dance between the tables, have fun! So far no one has been rude about it. Most of our guest know our venue and they are pretty understanding.
Post # 6
in my experience, the older korean guests tend to leave right after the meal is served anyway. but how about a photobooth? i think rock band is super fun… but it might distract the guests’ attention too far away from the bride and groom.
Post # 7
I’ve only been to 2 weddings that did not have dancing and I found them both to be very boring. In both cases everyone just sat at their tables until it was time to go home (which felt like it couldn’t come soon enough). I agree with Sweeney2Be that I equate weddings with dancing. In my experience the weddings I had the most fun at were the ones where everyone danced the night away.
I know a bride who had karaoke at her afterparty and everyone loved it, so that could be fun. However, you may have trouble getting guests to stand up in front of every other guest at the reception to sing.
As for video games, I think it’s a bad idea. (totally sterotyping here) All the guys will go play video games and all their dates will be hanging around waiting to leave. Video games aren’t really conducive to mingling because people are concentrating on playing- not chatting.
If you just want everyone to mingle I suggest that you have some obvious break in the evening that gets people out of their seats after dinner. For example, can you serve dessert/coffee in another area of the venue? I think the lounge idea is a good one. It’s awkward to just stand between tables and you feel rude leaving your tablemates to talk to someone else.
I think it may be a challenge if you don’t have a sociable crowd. Good Luck!
Post # 8
We’re having an outside afternoon wedding and I’m not really into the dancing either. A friend of mine is an amazing singer/songwriter and she’s going to be playing her guitar and singing for some of the reception. And I figure people can mingle, listen to her play for a good portion of the reception time. Also I’m thinking about setting up a volleyball net and/or a few other outside games set up. Think of the fun pictures of us playing volleyball – bride and maids against groom and groomsmen!
Post # 9
Have lots of great food and lots of alcohol along with some background music, and you should be good to go.
Post # 10
I don’t think gaming has to mean video games.
Option 1: Gambling but of course not for money. Maybe for tokens that could be redeemed for candy at the end of the night or just for bragging rights. Roulette, craps, poker, blackjack could be tons of fun and I am pretty sure there are vendors that rent the equipment and staff the games. We had a black tie event with those types of games and it was glamorous and a lot of fun.
Option 2: Traditional games: sorry!, shoots and ladders, clue, etc. You could label each table with a game and then after the tables are cleared people could play the game at their table or switch seats with someone else.
Option 3: (This would work well with a place with an outdoor space.) Fair type games: ring toss, tossing darts at the baloons, ring toss, those floating ducks, dress-up photobooth.
I think these all could be so much fun… but they would definitely take some preparation and money. Definitely don’t expect your family to "man" all of these activities.
Post # 11
I actually disagree with the posters who don’t like the video game idea. The fun thing about Rock Band and Guitar Hero and the Wii and other such things is that they seem to transcend the stereotypes associated with video games. You could also think about Dance, Dance Revolution, which is hilarious to watch. Video games could make for some great photo op and people definitely will mingle since they will be watching the hilarity.
Socalbeachgirl, did your venue come with foosball tables and such? I think me and the Fiance would love to do that at our reception, but there are very few places I’ve found thus far that actually come equipped. Apparently weddings aren’t supposed to be fun or something :p
Post # 12
I am having a luncheon reception without dancing.Â We are having a tour of the mission (even with actors!) next to our Church right after the ceremony.Â We wanted something a little different and we knew we didn’t want dancing.Â I think whatever works for you and your guests is perfect. There is a lot that’s expected at weddings because "everyone does it", but I think it’s *great* to be different and unique!
Post # 13
i agree with rosychicklet. if there were video games, the people into video games would be playing and the people not into it would be standing around watching them play. sort of boring, imo (i’m usually the one standing there watching my Fiance pretend he’s a rock god when he’s playing guitar hero). vyeta’s ideas could definitely work though! if you’re going to do games, i’d make them something everyone would like and get involved in.
Post # 14
I think the options will depend on your dress and time of day. If the wedding is formal and in the evening games won’t work as well as a casual daytime affair.
If it is an evening wedding and formal, you could transform your space into a cool lounge with drinks, music, couches, maybe a slideshow in the background??
Post # 15
We went to a wedding this summer at a winery in Temecula, and they didn’t have dancing. After the ceremony there was a cocktail hour with a wine bar and hors’douvres. There was a guy with a mini piano/synthasizer thing that sang — kind of like a lounge singer. After that we all went in for dinner, watched a slide show, ate, mingled, and talked. It was like a formal cocktail party. The bride said she wanted something "classy". It was nice, the singer was great and all the guests loved him!
Post # 16
MegK, our wedding planner rented the foosball and pool tables to bring into the venue, along with the lounge furniture. It was fairly reasonable, about $1,000 for all the table games.
The concept we went for was to create different spaces for people with different interests. Not everyone likes dancing. Think of the weddings you’ve been too…there’s usually a small group that dances all night long. Some will join in for a song or two here and there, but there’s a large portion that won’t dance.
If you set up an area for Guitar Hero, etc., I don’t think the idea is to have EVERYONE at the wedding involved, but it would be great for the people who want to do it and fun for a few people to watch, too. But agree that there should be some background music going on and some other activities, too, like a photobooth, etc.
And the bride & groom and mingle around to each area to talk to everyone.