(Closed) Alternatives to first dance?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

The first dance can truly just be a minute or two of the newly weds just holding each other and slow dancing (ie walking slowly in a circle!) It is uncommon nowadays for couples to have a choreographed dance for their first dance, plus it gives you both a chance to breathe and enjoy being married to one another and to a song that means something special to the two of you! 🙂

Post # 3
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

newbeegirl hit it spot on, the first dance doesn’t have to be anything incredible or wowing to the audience, it’s for you and your new husband, and the song you choose can be your special song for the two of you. I can’t dance to save my life, and I am too embarrassed to even try without being stupidly drunk, so my first dance will probably end up being “middle school slow dance” style as they call it, lol. 


But if you’re sure you really don’t want to do the dance, I found this site that has a lot of alternative ideas: https://www.wedding-venues.co.uk/wedding-ideas/2015/8-great-first-dance-alternatives


The DDR one is cute, that’s not technically dancing, lol. 

Post # 4
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I agree that there’s no pressure on actually dancing! But if you really don’t feel comfortable being up there alone, what about inviting your bridal party, family, or even anyone who wants to, to accompany you? The DJ could say something about wanting to share your first dance with everyone you love. Another idea could be a first drink/toast together to open up the dance floor set to a song that’s meaningful to you, then transition into an upbeat song and invite everyone up to kick off the dancing. 

Post # 5
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We just didn’t do a first dance, and it was fine. I’d skip it if you’re not into it.

Post # 6
3294 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My DH and I are not big PDA people so we really didnt want a first dance. We had a celidh instead (traditional Scottish / Welsh / English country dance) I think in the US you’d call it a barn dance. Anyway we had a caller who told us all the moves and it is not as focused as a proper first dance.

It was soooooo much fun and the guests loved it. I have been to a few weddings since that have done it too as they thought it was great at our wedding.

It gets everyone up dancing and mingling.

Post # 7
3649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

We did a private first dance, just Dh, myself, and our photographer, while the guests were at cocktail hour. It was great. We got great pictures and we aren’t on display for everyone, but we still got to enjoy that dance together.

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