I personally do like “obey”, I use cherish… But here is a set of vows that do not have “in sickness and in health”. They are also gender netural, so you might want to change that part. “Love X and Love O” are my way of being gender netural and still being romantic.
(Love O), I am proud to take you as my spouse. For all of the time we have been together, there has always been the kind of love and understanding which is only shared when there is true love. You have helped me triumph over challenges presented, encouraged my personal growth and boosted my self esteem. You have helped me become the person I am today, and with your help I will be a better person, tomorrow than I was yesterday.
I love the way you love and care for me.
I love the way you trust and totally believe in me.
I love the way you always look your very best for me.
I love you now and I love my life with you.
Today as we begin our lives as spouse and spouse.
I totally commit myself to you.
(Love X), I take you as my spouse. To say I love you is not enough. To try to condense the depth of my feelings into a few words is impossible. It doesn’t tell of the respect I have for you as an individual, nor how I appreciate how tender and caring you really are;
Nor the joy I find in your warm laughter;
Nor the tears I hold back for your pain;
Nor the strength you give when I need it the most;
Nor the pleasure I feel in your gentle touch.
But if to say, “I love you” means all these things.
Then let me say “I love you more each day”.
Maybe vows like this would work for you. If you would like more PM me and I will send a few more that are in my opinion nice without “in sickness and in health”.