(Closed) Alternatives to "in sickness and in health"

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@LaurenKK:  You could just omit that line all together if you don’t want it or just say in good times and in bad times?

Post # 4
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@LaurenKK:  Here’s ours:


I love you. You are my best friend.

Today I give myself to you in marriage.

I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you,

and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.

I promise to love you in good times and in bad,

when life seems easy and when it seems difficult,

when our love is simple, and when it is an effort.

I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard

These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life.”

Post # 5
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@scadadle15:  I dont normally like other vows besides the traditional ones, but these are beautiful!!

Post # 7
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

How about “in good health and bad” or “bad health and good” something like that., doesn’t need to say ‘sickness’.

Post # 8
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@scadadle15:  This is amazing! Did you write this yourself? Beautiful.

Post # 9
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@bigcitybee:  Thank you. I found them somewhere online and incorporated it into our ceremony that we did write.


@LaurenKK:  If you want to keep the line about sickness, I agree with @lia22:

“Good health and bad” or something to that effect.

Post # 10
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I hate the “whoever finds a reason these two should not be wed, speak now or forever hold your peace line”. I didn’t even consider this line…. wow, I should really get to thinking about my vows!

Post # 11
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

“to continue to support eachother in Good Health, and Better health”  its much more positive.


My husband has also been very supportive of me and my medical issues.  I have a few.  We have been together for 20 years and are renewing our vows.  This line will not be omitted but changed to the “Good and Better health”  or perhaps “Good Days, and Bad?”  oh I like that! I just made it up!  As some days are definitely better than others.


Feel free to PM me if you want. 

Good Luck!  Sickness & Health is more important that you know, and for me, it has taken someone super special to stand by me through all this.  I am now leaning towards “Good health days, and Not so good health days”  ???  Maybe something like this, if you are a little non-traditional and have a good sense of humor, most of your guests probably know the issues you are dealing with anyhow.  This is a VERY IMPORTANT vow not to be left out, but I agree with you.

Another one you do not want to Omit, is RICHER/POORER.. omg have my husband and I been through that as well!

Good luck to you:)   Glad you found someone dreamy for you and with the patience of a saint, just like Bill:)



Post # 13
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

I personally do like “obey”, I use cherish… But here is a set of vows that do not have “in sickness and in health”. They are also gender netural, so you might want to change that part.  “Love X and Love O” are my way of being gender netural and still being romantic. 

(Love O), I am proud to take you as my spouse.  For all of the time we have been together, there has always been the kind of love and understanding which is only shared when there is true love.  You have helped me triumph over challenges presented, encouraged my personal growth and boosted my self esteem.  You have helped me become the person I am today, and with your help I will be a better person, tomorrow than I was yesterday.

I love the way you love and care for me.

I love the way you trust and totally believe in me.

I love the way you always look your very best for me.

I love you now and I love my life with you.

Today as we begin our lives as spouse and spouse.

I totally commit myself to you.


(Love X), I take you as my spouse.  To say I love you is not enough.  To try to condense the depth of my feelings into a few words is impossible. It doesn’t tell of the respect I have for you as an individual, nor how I appreciate how tender and caring you really are;

Nor the joy I find in your warm laughter;

Nor the tears I hold back for your pain;

Nor the strength you give when I need it the most;

Nor the pleasure I feel in your gentle touch.

But if to say, “I love you” means all these things.

Then let me say “I love you more each day”.


Maybe vows like this would work for you. If you would like more PM me and I will send a few more that are in my opinion nice without “in sickness and in health”.

Post # 14
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I like what pp’s said about “in good and bad health” or maybe you could work one of these synonymns in for sickness

Definition:ill or abnormal condition

Synonyms:affectionafflictionailmentbugcomplaint,conditiondiseasediseasedness, disorderillillhealth, illnessindisposition, infirmity, malady,nausea, queasiness, syndrome, unhealth,unhealthfulness, unwellness

 PS just got those off of Thesaurus.com 

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