(Closed) Alternatives to Unity Candles

posted 10 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Hi, I plan on using a candle, but I don’t think you need one at all.  One of my friends actually signed the wedding certificate during the ceremony, but to me that was awkward, bc she had to bend over in her dress, hehe.

 Please repost if you come up with a cool/inventive idea!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We are doing a unity sand ceremony at our wedding. Our ceremony is outdoors in a park and involves our kids. It is safer for the kids and we are using colored sand that coordinates with our wedding. Plus, there would be no chances of the candle blowing out in the wind, lol. The pouring of the different sands together signifies everyone coming together to form one family.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I also wanted an alternative to sand/unity candles.  We are going to have a rose ceremony – we will exchange a single red rose to each other as our first gift as husband and wife… You can Google ‘Rose Ceremony’ to find out more information and read some passages and explanations. I’M SO HAPPY ABOUT IT!

 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are doing a rose ceremony "of sorts" too.  However, only one rose is given by my Fiance and I present him with the vase of water, with which the rose cannot live without.  I found it in a wedding ceremony book and my officiant is familiar with it.

Good Luck.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i don’t remember the website, but i saw a place that sold cords that you would "tie the knot" by braiding them together. they were made up of three cords – one for the bride, one for the groom, and one for God – and, it showed the joining of two lives with God holding them together and always linking through alongside the couple. i thought it was a great symbol. the cords can be kept as a keepsake later all braided together.

oooh, i just found the website, it’s called "God’s knot" and can be found here:

http://www.godsknot.com/cord_of_three_strands.cfm 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

You might want to be very clear in the program if you choose to do a hand binding ceremony of some kind. I personally LOVE them. We did a handfasting which sounds very, very similar to what you are describing. I only add this as a caution. This comes from a pagan celtic tradition (handfasting). I’m pagan and my Darling Husband is celtic so it worked very well for us. And I’m absolutely not discouraging you from using it!!! It’s a beautiful visual!!! I just know some christian who would be horrified to find out that something they used had pagan roots. There’s also the possibility that someone in the audience would know these roots. You might want to put a nice explination in the program explaining what this is and what it means to you. That way no one gets the wrong idea. I’m all for reclaiming traditions and making tradition work for you! Feel free to PM me if anyone wants to know the logistics of doing a ceremony like this. Ours worked out very nicely! Good luck everyone!

(Please don’t think I’m trolling on your board! I was just flipping through all the posts and ran across this one.)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

bonniebelle: i am not sure if you were referring to my post, but i am pretty sure the "god’s knot" is not actually all that similar to handfasting. with handfasting, you actually tie the bride and groom’s hands together, yes? what i am talking about is a crd with three strands that you braid together – the groom holds it and the bride braids, but the actual cord is seperate from the people at all times.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I looked into handfasting and I think it would b beautiful. It’s done quite often with a family’s tartan. It does sound different from the unity type of thing you’re asking for, but I’ve heard it’s very beautiful and I am considering it. I have seen unity sand and I think even rocks or water. The idea is that you are two independent beings choosing to join and create something different. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Worker bee

This is old, but several Christian weddings I’ve been to have had a footwashing ceremony.  It’s very touching and symbolic.  Just throwing that in the mix in case someone checks back!

Post # 15
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Worker bee

Wow i never checked back on this, sorry… they staged it pretty much like any other unity type ceremony.  An appropriate song began to play, and someone brought a small stool up for the bride to sit on.  The basin and stool may have been near the altar somewhere inconspicuous — I don’t remember, sorry!  The groom washed the bride’s feet while she sat, and then they switched places.  The only thing is that the congregation can’t really see what’s happening up there as much as a regular sort of unity thing… and the song has to be a long song. 🙂

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