Post # 1
Any other ladies have this problem? He never listens to me. Tonight, Im being forced against my will to go to a metal concert. I hate metal, and I am not a big fan of concerts, and I have a sh*t ton of homework to do this weekend and I can’t afford to be out until 5 in the morning listening to a shitty excuse for music (no offense to people who like metal, i just CANNOT stand it). He asked of I wanted to go (in front of the friend who is show it is, after the friend had just finished telling my Fiance what a bitch I was and how much he didnt like me, right in front of me). I said “NO, I have homework and I am tired and stressed and need to study” and he was like “Yea man, we will go”. And now we aren’t just going to watch the show, we have to babysit the guy who’s show it is (he just turned 21 and will be getting wasted) which means we will be out at the bar all night.
At the moment, we are not even home. he decided that it would be a great idea to go see his friend and take shots, so i have to be the Dirty Delete. Im so annoyed.
He wont even take me out to dinner, but he will to go to a bar and get wasted and see a sh*tty concert for his friend? No bueno.
And on top of all this, (TMI alert) I am about to start my period and I just want to cry my eyes out and sleep in my bed.
Post # 3
I would stay home, for what it’s worth. The friend already doesn’t like you AND you don’t want to go anyway. Drop them off and tell him to take a cab home. Or hell, offer to come get him when it’s over even. But you can bail.
Post # 4
How are you being forced to go? Take the car and go home. Tell him to call a cab. If he learns there are consequences to not paying attention to what you say…maybe he will start to listen!
Post # 5
and why exactly are you with a man who will let his friend bad mouth you? Doesn’t sound like your man has any respect for you.
Post # 6
I like metal, but if I didn’t I can’t imagine how awful going to a metal show would be, it’s not like you can “get away” from it while you’re there. It’s definantly a specific scene.
So I would 100% take a pass on it, explain to him nicely you didn’t want to go, you don’t want to go, and you’re not going.
F the friend, who cares what some idiot that has no manners or respect thinks of you. And tell your dude to stand up for you about that.
It’s wonderful to compromise in a relationship, for example, I’m going to a tractor pull……a freakin tractor pull because my SO is super excited to take me (lol…ugh). But I don’t have homework, I don’t feel icky, and I will be able to stand it. If it were something I would hate he’d never pressure me or let his friends talk smack about me over it. MAKE him listen. If he doesn’t, do what you want anyway. He’ll figure it out.
Post # 7
School ALWAYS trumps everything else in life in my book. Going to a concert might be fun for one night, but getting good grades determines the rest of your life.
Post # 8
I agree with others – why did you go? Just go home. I think you’re sending mixed messages. You said “no” once, but went anyway. Stand your ground. School comes first!
Post # 9
“He asked of I wanted to go (in front of the friend who is show it is, after the friend had just finished telling my Fiance what a bitch I was and how much he didnt like me, right in front of me).”
What? What did your Fiance say to his friend after he said this?
Post # 10
You have free will. Don’t go if you don’t want to!