Post # 1
My FH is ALWAYS late. ALWAYS. I assume he makes it on time to important meetings at work, etc., but when it comes to anything else, he’s always late by at least 10 minutes, sometimes as much as an hour.
I’ve known other people like this, too. Being late once in a while is normal, but why are some people habitually late? I know we all know someone like this.
Do they just not care? Do they try their best but get distracted? I just don’t get it!
Post # 3
I don’t get it either. There are people I work with who are constantly 15-20 minutes late and I don’t understand. I’m always about 5-10 minutes early though. My fiance’s family is late a lot too so whenever we’re going somewhere and they say we’ll all be ready and meet up by, say, 10 AM, we won’t get there until about 10:15 anymore and they’ll still have 15 minutes left. I just don’t get it either. I guess what confuses me too is why, if you know you’re late to something like work, you don’t get up 15 minutes earlier.
Post # 4
This drives me INSANE and whether they intend it or not, they need to get it through their thick skulls that being late all the time = you don’t care about the people you’re meeting. Period.
Darling Husband is late ALL THE TIME and it’s because he needs a deadline to finish things. So “hey, we’re leaving at 6:30” means “let me try and finish up a million things before 6:30” so that when 6:25 comes around and I start trying to get him to wrap it up, he refuses to abandon anything unfinished and we’re finally out the door at 6:45. I give up. I’ve resigned myself to telling him we’re going to leave 15 minutes earlier than we really need to. He hasn’t caught on yet.
Post # 5
I just had to vent b/c lateness is one of my pet peeves! I just don’t get the thought process.
Post # 6
Ugh, we have friends who just got married and they are ALWAYS late. It drives Fiance and I insane!! Mostly Fiance because he absolutely hates being late, and always gives himself plenty of time to get places. For instance, we were suppose to meet our friends at 6pm at olive garden. We get there at 5:55. At 6:40 we finally get a table (we only have 1 olive garden in our city and it’s always packed!) at 7:10 they FINALLY ARRIVE!!!! how freaking rude. Not only that but the wife didn’t like her food and sent it back 20 minutes after she got it, had to wait for her new plate and ordered dessert which she didn’t like either. FI and I were there for over 3 hours and were not impressed. Needless to say we haven’t made plans since. It’s so rude to be late, a couple minutes fine, over an hour?! wow.
Post # 7
I feel your pain. My Fiance is on time and/or early for work related things; however, when it comes to anything else, he is always late. I have learned over the years, yes years, that I have to tell him whatever it is that we are going to is scheduled a 1/2hr earlier than I want to be there. He knows I do this, but he seems to forget every time. I am worried that he will be late to our wedding; however, I already have people assigned to make sure he gets there on time, so hopefully, he will be.
Post # 8
I’m right there with ya!
I try to be punctual for everything but Fiance takes his sweet time. Its SOOO annoying. We’re late everywhere we go because of him. We’re even about 15 minutes late to work every morning because he “doesnt like to be rushed” (we work for the same company). Thankfully neither boss really cares about us being late so thats not an issue but I always feel like my day starts off on the wrong foot when he makes me late. Its so frustrating!
Post # 9
I am late all the time. I HATE that quality about myself. I am never late to business functions, but socially, YES!! I am late to every appointment I make. I am trying so hard to get better!
Post # 10
Haha yeah, I have some friends who are ALWAYS late. The thing is, since I know they will be late, I’ll purposely show up late myself when I’m meeting them. It all works out that way 🙂
Post # 11
This drives me totally, completely, ridiculously batty. There’s no excuse for it. None. If you’re habitually 10 minutes late LEAVE 10 MINUTES EARLY!! It’s really not that hard. I had a college roommate like this, almost strangled her a number of times. For me, it’s a matter of respect. It’s disrespectful to those you’re meeting to be late. Especially when you’re always late. You are essentially saying “my time is more important than yours.” Newsflash: it’s not. Set your clock back a half hour and get your shit together.
Post # 12
Darling Husband is late for everything. It makes me INSANE. He was a full day late for our “first date”. He’s gotten a lot better, but he’s still typically at least 5-10 minutes late for everything. It makes me nuts when we’re on the way somewhere together, and he’ll call someone and say we’re 5 minutes away when clearly we’re 20 minutes away. When I tell him that he looks at me dumbfounded and says “Really?!” He lives in some sort of a time/space vacuum I swear to god.
Post # 13
@lezlers: Agreed! I’m pretty much that’s verbatim what I told Darling Husband one day and it was a huge revelation to him. *facepalmsmack*
I’m always early. My favourite is when we’re leaving the house and Darling Husband is grumbling at me that we have to go, so I’m standing at the door in my shoes and coat while he’s having a glass of water in the kitchen, then running back to the bedroom to grab his wallet, then trying to find his phone, etc etc. Ya, I’m the hold up here bud…
Post # 14
*sneaks out from under the desk in embarrassment*
I have to admit that I am perpetually late. The sad part is – I DO try to leave 10 minutes early… but then on my way out the door I remember something I left upstairs, or the dog decides she needs to go out and bark at the squirrels (after having convinced me she needed desperatley to pee), or… aliens landed in my backyard… I don’t know, something just always happens!! I’m incredibly ADD and can’t manage my time for beans, though so I’d imagine that plays a part in it.
I also set my clock forward… but I know it’s set forward, so I think “Oh, I’ve got that extra XX number of minutes”. I realize it’s disrespectful and it’s absolutely not something I do on purpose – it actually makes me incredibly anxious and I HATE it about myself, but it still happens :/ Like the PP moster mentioned, I have a terrible concept of time/distance too, so that makes it worse.
Anyway, I know it sucks to be waiting for people, I do, but know that most people who are perpetually late usually feel really bad about it! Well.. the girls do at least!
Post # 15
@bakerella: I do that and it drives Mr. C absolutely freaking insane! We’re both always late and usually I’ll be standing by the door waiting for him, then as soon as he comes downstairs I’ll remember something I left upstairs. When I come down and ask “Are you ready to go?” he gives me look of pure exasperation/loving fury.
Post # 16
@TealChocolate: at least you feel bad about it. Most people I’ve met that are perpetually late don’t. Have you tried leaving a half hour early instead of 10 minutes? I’d personally rather be a half hour early than late.
Here’s my OCD punctual thought process: “I’ve got to be there by 2. Takes me about 10 minutes to drive there. Might be traffic though, so I’ll give myself 20. If I’m way early I can always play on my Iphone in the car. Okay, so I need to leave by 1:40 at the latest.” Beginning at 12:00 I start watching the clock…”gotta be in the shower by 12:40″ Come 12:40 I drop whatever I’m doing and shower. Now I’m ready to go and it’s 1:20. I basically watch the clock with one-eye whilst doing whatever else I’m doing until 1:40. At 1:40 promptly I drop everything I’m doing and walk out the door.
You see, I would’ve had the dog outside to pee at 1:15, just in case. Would’ve made sure I did all those last minute before leaving the house things starting at 1:20. At 1:40, everything is dropped and my ass is out the door.
I’m clearly on one end of the spectrum while you’re on the other. I’m just trying to show you how the other side manages their time. You know your dog is going to want to go out, so you’ve got to allow time for that in your getting ready routine. It’s not like your dog has never had to pee before. So factor it in. You CAN be on time! 🙂