- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2020
SO is ex military (one deployment to Afghanistan about 3 years ago).
He has some PTSD, we don’t discuss that too often, but he does often mention how he misses being over there and how he would go back in a heartbeat. He also talks about wanting to look for jobs that will take him overseas. I “joke” that he is happiest when he is surrounded by comrades and weapons (he just got back from a camping/shooting trip with his fellow ex army friends).
It is obviously hard for me to understand. He ran for political office and lost and now seems to be full of ideas for his next adventure. He is sort of an adrenaline junkie, I guess.
I want him to follow his dreams in life but I cannot help but feel hurt with the way he throws around ideas about “leaving” all of the time. The amount of ideas he has in general makes me uneasy because it seems like he is not one who will ever “settle down” (although he is adament that he wants a wife and a family…oddly enough)
He has so many wonderful qualities and is such a high achiever. I love and admire him and we get along very well. I am just having trouble wrapping my mind around how someone like me (likes to plan, needs stability) can successfully be with someone like him (adventure seeking, “just roll with it” attitude). I am a capricorn and he is a leo… if anyone is into the zodiac… that can provide some more insight.
My apologies for this post being a bit of an unorganized ramble. I am looking for any words of wisdom or “opposites attract” stories… or insight from anyone who is with someone former or currently in the military who can maybe relate to the “adrenaline junkie” situation?
Thanks for reading.
- This topic was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by DariaVixen.