(Closed) Always something…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’s up to you whether you pay her part, but I don’t think you can obligate her to pay for a trip she’s not going on.  I would be pissed if I were her.  Can you somehow reduce the cost of the weekend so that her not going (and not contributing $$) is not a financial burden?

Post # 4
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4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it’s unreasonable to ask her to pay for a trip that she isn’t going on. 

Post # 6
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914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I also think it’s unreasonable to make her pay. I’d be pretty ticked off if someone wanted me to pay for something that I couldn’t attend because of life circumstances.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

ask another friend to join on the trip to take this girl’s place

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yes, it’s unreasonable. I’m sorry if this is too blunt, but you shouldn’t even be planning your own party (let alone a whole weekend) and asking people for money in the first place, and asking them to pay money for a trip they now can’t attend is not okay. She might think it’s unfair that you decided you wanted a whole weekend trip away for a party in your honor which they all have to pay for, and now you want her to pay even though she can’t go. I agree with PPs who suggested asking another friend to go.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Oh dear.  It is absolutely unreasonable that you are making this Bridesmaid or Best Man pay for the bachelorette party even though she is not attending.

Post # 11
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902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I wouldn’t pay for a trip that I am no longer going to attend.  Invite someone else that will gladly pay her portion to go, even if its not a bridesmaid or whatever.  Don’t make her feel bad because something great (new job, etc) happened and had to change plans.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I do not think you can make her pay and I think that you trying is something that could ruin a friendship. When you plan something like this, you should understand that some may not attend or even flake out at the last minute. It is your responsibility, nobody elses. 

And you can’t make the other girls pay for her part either. If you are arranging this trip, you need to pay her part or find someone to replace her.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You cant make her pay… eeven if you are the BRIDE. ask someone else to come or down grade the trip. Its mean to ask her to pay you back when she is not even going.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I agree it’s unreasonable to make her pay for goods and services she won’t enjoy. Life happens. She did not sign a contract. Even still, she is entitled to enjoy the goods and services her dollars will bring. No product, no purchase.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

 @StuporDuck:  Life happens. She did not sign a contract.

THIS!!!

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