Post # 32
Is it wrong to say that I mostly don’t want my husband’s last name because it’s his dad’s last name. I don’t HATE his dad, but I’m not fond of him either. Why honour his dad, and forget mine (daddy’s girl, and my dad passed away when I was 10, so sentimental really to have my maiden name..I wasn’t closer to my mom).
Post # 33
I actually never thought I’d get married. In never envisioned it or daydreamed about. But here I am; married and happily so. But it was never a question of changing my name. It’s my name, it’s mine, it’s me. I would have been intrigued if my husband had mentioned the both of use taking our own new surname, but I wouldn’t have been interested in him taking mine.
My parents died when I was a child. I have one sister, long-since married. My father had one sister. So I’m the last of my name. Not in the whole world, obviously, but my whole world. There is no one else. And as I’ve lived my entire adult life on a different continent from the one I was raised in, my last name is my last little lingustic tether to my origins on the space walk that is life.
But I have changed my name before. I ditched a never-used middle name and took my mother’s maiden name. I wanted reminders of them both on the space walk.
Post # 34
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
I will be changing my last name for many reasons
- I have an 11 letter last name that NOBODY can pronounce. I have had one person in my entire life get it right on the first shot
- I want to share a last name with my children
- I want to be a unit – like “the Smith family”
- Nobody ever gets my SO’s last name wrong
The only reason I would keep my last name is because nobody else has my name as far as I know. My last name is that uncommon. I know I will miss that, but I won’t miss constantly correcting people and that silence when you get a telemarketer and they’re ready to take a stab at your last name.
I actually cringe thinking about what the heck I’m going to do about my email address because I don’t want to have 5 numbers after my name, because there will easily be thousands of women with my name the second I change it.
Post # 35
@missamysmiles: Your children will have a really secure security question when it’s “What’s your mother’s maiden name?” 🙂 Both with my maiden name and FI’s last name I had to use first, middle, and last name to get an email address with no numbers 🙁
Post # 36
@sugar_biscuit: Wow! We are exactly alike! My mom had me at a VERY young age. She ended up divorced and remarried when I was 2. My whole family has a different last name than I do and I never felt like I completely fit in. I don’t have a realtionship with my biological father so I’m changing it asap. I love my new last name.
Post # 37
@MissMarple: I don’t need to change my name to have a deeper bond with Fiance. Just something about it evokes a certain emotional feeling I can’t describe. We’ve been together for so long, we’re both 30-ish, I know changing my name won’t change our day-to-day relationship. The idea of keeping my name is the logical side and changing it is emotional. Which side to go with…
By The Way I love your user name, I’m assuming Agatha Christie’s Miss Marple.
@missamysmiles: That’s funny, if I change my name I’ll have a name I have trouble pronouncing…
Post # 38
I have the exact opposite problem! Growing up I always wanted to change my name, when I got engaged I was planning on changing my name. I never really liked my last name and my first name sounds nice with my fiance’s last name, but now that we’re getting close I just don’t know. I mean I’m kinda sad to potentially say goodbye to the name I’ve been using for the last 30 years. My fiance says its important to him for me to take his name and it is easier when we have kids. I think I’ve decided to hyphenate, that way I get the best of all worlds and our kids will take his last name.
Post # 39
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
@sah612: hahaha they sure will!!
I will probably have to go first name middle name last name too.
Post # 40
@ralessio: I”m excited to change my last name because mine is long and his is 4 letters. I have been using it sine we started dating anyways when I have to spell it over the phone.