(Closed) Am I a bad friend?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

anniebunny:  and the reason you are keeping her as a so-called friend is?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

anniebunny:  I know it’s hard, but she isn’t worth your sanity. Ditch her.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

anniebunny: yes, because you sound like you have boundary issues. Why do you need validation or flagellation?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Blue Hound Farm

She’s not a real friend, and probably not a very nice person. Not seeing any positives for you in this relationship

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

She’s the bad friend. Not you. She brings zero to the friendship but stress, disrespect, and obligation. No offense but she’s a waste of your energy and more importantly, a waste of your kindness and good nature. I second the pp suggestion that you ditch her. Life is hard enough without “friends” like that.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

She is a fair weather friend. She is your friend as long as it suits her but if you need her, she’s not available.  Ditch her, you don’t need that in your life. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I agree with the majority of PPs. It sounds like you don’t need this ‘friend’ in your life.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

You’re not the bad friend. She is. Don’t let her guilt trip you. Her words are insincere and hurting your feelings. Why is she still a friend?

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Yeah I think you should break up with her. Just because you have been friends with someone for along time doesn’t mean the relationship isn’t toxic.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

bitsybee:  you DO know what flagellation means right? I recommend you look it up as if it does not mean anything related to this topic… 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

anniebunny:  Do not waste your time on this friend! If she is not going to go to your stuff, she cannot expect you to drop your life and go to hers.  Also about that whole boundary issue thing another poster said(they said something about flagellation as well, which made me laugh as a biologist since a flagella is used for locomotion). I too would feel terribly uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed as my friend and her husband. Especially if he just came in, in the middle of the night. Tina sounds dumb for expecting you to have sleepovers.. Honestly. Her high school days are over. 

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