- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
Ok, here is my story….
My Maid/Matron of Honor called me a Bridezilla this weekend and this is why:
Saturday I had plans with my Maid/Matron of Honor to go to my first dress fitting. I had made the plans with her over a month in advance. The day before the fitting she texts me that she will not be able to come. Her son is in a basketball tournament. I am very upset because she has been backing out of EVERYTHING lately. She showed up for 10 minutes when I was deciding on a dress, she was the only bridesmaid not to come over and help me make invitations and she cancelled on my first dress try on. She always has an excuse: work, kids, etc….So I guess I half expected her to cancel, but was still hoping she would be there for me. I haven’t seen her since Christmas and was really looking forward to talking to her.
So, she cancels and I find another friend (not a bridesmaid) to go with me. The morning of the fitting my Maid/Matron of Honor texts me and says she might be able to sneak out of a game and come. I text back and say forget it I found someone else. She text back Oh! Okay!
Then I few minutes later she texts me that She hopes I am not upset. She is very busy and has not been able to attend very many things with me. I text back that Yes, I am a little upset and we are all busy and she hasn’t attended anything.
She just unloads on me…Basically a How dare you I am a single mom and until you are you have no right to say anything blah, blah , blah. At this point I would like to say that I am tired of parents thinking that single people do not have busy lives. I get it, you have kids. You have a lot to do, but why do thy always think we have some carefree lifestyle?? I get it, she’s divorced and has kids and a busy job. But she wanted to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Where’s my support?
Anyway, I tell her my life isn’t all rainbows. It’s been hard lately. I’m being pulled in all directions with no support. Changing business trips, crazy family and a Brother-In-Law who won’t move out.
Later, while trying to plan my work schedule I realize I have no clue what day the girls are planning on having my bachelorette party. I need to know so I can plan my schedule accordingly. So I email them and ask what is going on and could they please give me the date so I can make plans. I get an email back from one saying yes they are on it they have a date don’t worry. But doesn’t give me the date. I email back asking if I can have the date? My Maid/Matron of Honor emails back to everyone : Someone is being a Bridezilla
Really?? Is it being a Bridezilla to know the date of the bacherlorette party so I can plan my work trips?? Am I really being that unreasonable? I just hate the word Bridezilla and have been doing my best to be as accomodating as possible to my bridesmaids. I gave them 3 dress choices, let them pick their own shoes, have not demanded they do anything. But I would like some help on things. I have 4 bridesmaids. Two are in state and two are not. My Maid/Matron of Honor lives 20 minutes from me and I have not seen her in 2 months and have barely heard from her at all. All my other girls have helped me out, even the out of state ones. How do I handle this?