(Closed) Am I a bridezilla or do my bridesmaids truely suck?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

well it sounds like you are upset with one bridesmaid in particular rather than all of them. Perhaps part of the reason the rest of the them have had trouble planning something is also because of her?

I would talk to her, give her an out if she really doesn’t want to be in the wedding. You don’t want someone standing up next to you on your wedding day that doesn’t really want to be there.

As for the bachelorette, you may have to compromise and not have all of your maids there. Is your sister the one who you want most to be there? Then pick a night when she can come, let the girls know the date, if they can make it, great, if they can’t, well that sucks, but oh well. My Maid/Matron of Honor couldn’t even come to my bachelorette, and I still had a blast.

Post # 4
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

From what you’ve said- it doesn’t sound like you’re asking too much at all. Maybe you guys can do dinner during the week instead on lunch on Sunday? Maybe they don’t feel included and have had it ‘easy’ the whole time so now that they have a responsibility, they feel overwhelmed or like ‘why should i?’, you know? Not that thats right- just an idea!


Are you guys having slumber party Friday night? Maybe you guys can turn that into a bit of a party?

Post # 5
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think you need to back up and slow down for a moment.

    1. On Sunday you should have your sit down lunch as “planned”. If your sister can’t make it, then sorry. She can’t call in sick or leave for a few hours? I think the group needs to have this time. You definitely NEED this lunch, and so do your BM’s.
    2. t sounds like your sister could not plan something that works with your busy schedule, so YOU should have asked someone else to plan the lunch. Now I think YOU need to do it instead.
    3. Some people really LOVE to be involved. By not including people and letting them know “whatsup” you’re pretty much excluded them. Most women LOVE love love weddings, crafting, and being INVOLVED! I think you may have hurt their feelings over that. Everyone loves getting their opinion asked, it is your day but the whole point of bridesmaids is to have help.
    4. You would be amazed at how far a simple please and thank you will go even if you feel it’s not deserved.

    I think your acting bridezilla now, but I think you have hurt your BM’s and maybe even you MOH’s feelings. If I was one of them I honestly wouldn’t feel like I owed you an appology, or that I should accomdate you for your brunch.

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