(Closed) Am I a complete loser because I don't have a theme?

posted 4 years ago in Themes
Post # 2
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Take a deep breath and relax, bonbon. No you do not need a theme. A wedding is a celebration of your love for each other. However you choose to celebrate that love is your choice and it’s a fabulous choice. Theme, no theme, 5 themes… it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re happy with how the day played out.

We’re not doing a theme per say. I love the fall, so we’re doing some pumpkins and a purple/orange color scheme. I fell in love with a purple and orange clip art of these two birds, so we’re adding in some bird stuff too. Not so much because I want a theme, but because I think they’re cute!

Post # 3
1553 posts
Bumble bee

I’m only 24 and I don’t really have a ‘theme’ to speak of. I told our wedding planner that I like the color green and leafy things, but that’s as detailed as I’ve been 🙂

To be perfectly honest,  I didn’t want a big wedding to begin with. I wanted to elope. We decided it would offend too many people if we didn’t invite anyone. I personally don’t care about that, but my fiance does, so we’re doing the whole wedding thing. Weddings, especially themes, seem very much like a parade to me. I just want to get married and get on with it!

Post # 4
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

bonbon663:  I was 28 when I got married, and I didn’t have a theme. Follow your heart, and do whatever makes you happiest 🙂

Post # 5
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I am 23 and I am not having a theme to our wedding. The only thing we are doing are the wedding colors red, white, and black. But mostly red and white. 

Post # 6
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

bonbon663: I’ve been working my planning around a “wedding” theme. The theme is “wedding”.

Post # 7
16 posts

I am 24 years old and I don’t have a theme for my wedding either. I have no idea what a theme is or anything. All I have are my colors, which are ivory, black and burgundy.

Post # 8
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Firehouse Restaurant

I don’t think a theme is required for a wedding. I have one myself but only because it happen to fit into everything that I had already had in mind and it fit perfectly. My theme is The Secret Garden like the book. But like I said no need for a theme. Colors are just fine that’s what I was going to do originally.

Post # 9
731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

bonbon663:  Getting married at 22 and we won’t have a theme just a color scheme

Post # 12
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015


Post # 13
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I agree with PP…let the ‘theme’ be getting married and stuff you like!

I’ll be a 32 year old first time bride (FI has been married once before) and when we first started planning I got into the whole ‘we need a theme’ mindset! I pitched a couple of ideas to Fiance but he wouldn’t have any of it asking why we needed a random tacky theme (his words not mine) when we were getting married in such a beautiful country/setting anyway (DW in the Italian Lakes). I saw his point so now we are just doing things we love. 

I’ve stopped caring about how cohesive it will all look. 


Post # 14
9788 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Tbh I think themes are cheesy and there’s way to much focus on them. Your theme is wedding. You can have an aesthetic or colors to make the look cohesive but to me themes are for kids bdays parties so don’t sweat it.

Post # 15
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

No law requires that you have a theme.  Some people like the idea, others not so much.  It’s your day–do what you enjoy!

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