Post # 1
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Busy bee
So last night I had a dream.. it started off really well, My SO and I were getting a little frisky and it was getting pretty hot and then…. all of a sudden he is sitting me down and telling me that he has cheated on me and wants nothing to do with me and has wanted to get out of our relaitonship for ages.. He was acting so cold and heartless..It was horrible, in the dream I lost everything, him, our dog, all of our friends and his family.. they all were happy he was rid of me! Now I know it was just a dream obviously but I wouldnt help waking up feeling super sad and EXTREMELY NEEDY!! (the poor guy was trying to have his breakfast this morning and here I am snuggling into him for a hug).
I totally 100% trust my SO and know he would never actually cheat on me so my feelings aren’t because of that.. its more the thought of losing him that gets me depressed after a dream like this!
Am I crazy person? Has anyone else had these types of dreams and then feel really down for a while after?
Post # 3
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Helper bee
My husband is the one who has those dreams, then tells me how mean I am! LOL!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
@LilyBee70: LOL! I used to be cranky at my SO after having a dream where he cheats.. I’d be like “how could you do that..? even in my dreams” LOL
Post # 5
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Honey bee
I’ve totally had one or two dreams like that, and it can definitely bum out my whole day! I’ve also had dreams where I’m the one who cheated or did something horrible, then I walk around the whole day full of guilt! Same has happened with my Fiance. We share about it and laugh, but damn, sometimes it just feels so real.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
I had a weird dream similar to that… It was brief though. I was slightly sad at first and then I told my Fiance about it and laughed it off. I told him he was a total jerk in my dream. lol. 🙂
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@bowsergirl: Yeah I have had dreams where I am the one doing wrong but for some reason I always seem to stop the dream right before I actually “do the wrong thing” I just know I did it if that makes sense? Yeah SO and I laught about it now, this morning when I told him he took our dog away from me and wouldnt let me see him, he walked over to where our dog was sleeping and gave him a hug and said “well buddy at least we stuck together” lol!!
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I’ve had those dreams, but it doesn’t affect my mood the next day. Unless you count waking up sad for 2 seconds before huge relief hits.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
If it’s a totally crazy dream that doesn’t make sense it doesn’t affect me, but if it’s a realistic dream it always makes me sad!
Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I have had a couple of dreams like that, had a dream once where Fiance cheated on me with my then best friend, and then with my sister on the same day. I woke up crying my eyes out, it felt so real! I have had a couple where he cheated with strangers, but mostly any cheating dreams have been him cheating on me with someone I know.
Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
Early on in our relationship, I had a dream that Fiance dumped me. I actually woke up crying!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
My stepmom has had those dreams and been REALLY mad at my dad afterward lol. One time she had a dream that she caught me smoking and spent the whole weekend mad at me! I think it’s pretty common, I don’t honk you’re a crazy person at all!!
Post # 13
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Honey bee
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Haha~~ yes! I’ve had dreams like that I think 3 times now.. the first time I was soooo irritable… the 3rd time it barely got to me at all, though!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
I’ll wake up and be all angry for a whole 2 or three seconds. When he wakes up I’ll tell him “I wanted to slug you when I woke up this morning. How could you cheat on me in my dreams?” And we laugh about it. But most mornings when I have dreams like that and wake up I reach over and hug him because I’m so releived it was just a dream
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
I’m a terrible dreamer and I talk and cry in my sleep – FML.
I often have dreams where FI-to-be cheats on me and he has to wake me up as I’m sobbing into my pillow, it’s rather embarrassing!
He’s never done anything to warrant my dreams (the poor guy always feels guilty that he upsets me, even though its only is dream – obviously) but I have slight abandonment issues, which is why he thinks I dream of losing him.
Post # 16
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Helper bee
@Brickette- I get that all the time”how can you be so mean in my dreams?” 🙂