Post # 1
I am not a parent yet, but a lot of my friends who have had babies recently include pictures of their kids on a background of flesh – often with the tell tale curvature of breasts ready to nurse.
I have to ask, do they make you strip down and put the baby on your naked flesh at the hospital? Is this a part of parenthood that I’ve not heard of, and am only learning about through carefully cropped photos (which my husband asked “is that okay for them to post?) on facebook?
It seems weird to me to be topless while someone is taking pictures… I dunno.
Post # 3
im not a mom but ive been a birthing partner but from that experience i was told that so much of my friends body was everyone elses (from her husband to doctors to midwives and friends) that her inhibitations lowered alot
i was watching her get stitches after the birth and then i thought “omg, im looking into my friends vagina!!!” we both laughed, she said she didnt care and afterwards she happily whipped out her breast to breastfeed (discretely under a wrap when possible) whenever it was needed and she breastfed for about 16mths – i just got use to it
btw. by memory at the hospital she was naked during the birth and there was 3 support people there – she packed shirts and gowns but just did not care by the time she was ready to push
Post # 4
I think all sense of decency goes out the window. Certainly at the hospital you’ll be stripped to the waist flashing the tatas for all to see (lactation consultants, nurses etc..) and at that point it’s unlikely you’ll give a damn… but that phase lasted less than 24 hours for me. I’m still shy!
Post # 5
Yeah from what I can tell, you have so many people looking up your hoo-ha during the birth that you just don’t care who sees what anymore. OMGmom had a good post on it.
Post # 6
If you’re a prude so am I. It’s honestly not something I like to see…though I am not a mother, so maybe that makes a difference. I was over a friend’s house and was by no means offended when she whipped out her breast to nurse because it was her house…but I was over my mom’s and my sister’s sister in law did it in front of everyone and it I’m not going to lie, it personally offended me. When women do it under a wrap or towel i have no problem, but when it’s full breast out at a public even or in a picture it bothers me.
Post # 7
I remember when my daughter was born they tried to have me nurse her almost immediately. I usually am a bit prude about those things, but after everyone seeing me with my legs spread open for an hour I was over being modest. The nurses see it all day long every day, and my daughters father was the only other person there, so it didnt bother me too much. Afterwards when family and friends were visiting I was allowed to go behind the curtain on the other side of the room to nurse.
Post # 8
@ddw: To answer your question, I (a nurse in NICU) actually do suggest to my patients to strip from the waist up and do lots of skin-to-skin cuddling with their newborns, it is called Kangaroo Care, and has a lot of research as far as the benefits to bonding, feeding, temperature control of the baby, pain control during painful procedures, etc … so yes, in the hospital, the mom typically spends a lot of time topless when they are in the hospital.
Post # 9
I’m normally pretty shy about my body. But, after I gave birth to my son, modesty was pretty much out the window. Everyone in the room (my son’s dad, my bff, my mom, countless nurses, anesthesiologist, ob/gyn, etc) had already seen everything! Honestly, I was so exhausted and caught up in the moment, I didn’t even care.
It is possible that they put the baby on moms nekkid skin to help comfort and keep the baby warm. They nurses kept telling me to put my son directly on my skin to help soothe him.
Post # 10
While I was pregnant, I always thought that when it came time to give birth I would wear a hospital gown. But, when I was actually in labour I was so HOT. Its like you need to strip down as having clothes on is suffocating. Plus, after baby is born skin on skin contact is the most important thing for mum and bub, so yes you do have to be naked on your top half. Plus, so many people see your “privates” while in hospital. Midwives are constantly checking your vagina during your hospital stay, when they help you breast feed they touch your breasts to get everything into the right position. And when you tell people your birth story, its easy to forget that other ppl dont want to hear about all the nitty gritty gross details. I guess you loose alot of your inhabitions after having a child haha
Post # 11
I guess that makes sense – the whole concept of you’ve had your legs spread for an hours, what’s the big deal with taking your shirt off.
I think the weirdest was when one of my (male) friends posted a picture of his sister with the baby on her bare chest. It just seemed so weird that she would be topless with her big brother there.
Is it a comfort thing for the baby to feel your skin, or are most women just honestly not wearing much clothing during delivery?
ETA: Thanks to the last three posters who all answered this secondary question while I was typing it! 🙂
Post # 12
I do think that you really have to experience child birth and breast feeding to really appreciate the beauty that is bring a child into the world. When I see people’s photos like your describing I don;t find it offensive, I just think its another beautiful part of being a mummy 🙂
Post # 13
I think the weirdest was when one of my (male) friends posted a picture of his sister with the baby on her bare chest.
i guess its because as a sibling i never looked at my sister or sister in law as a sexual being and i would like to think my brother would feel the same about me if i was to have children *shrug shoulders*
you’ve had your legs spread for an hours,
hours, hahah – i got my friend to the hospital about 40mins before the baby was born, her water hadnt broken so we thought we had plenty of time despite the contractions being close – we cut it pretty close i was told and im lucky her water didnt break in my car! yikes
Post # 14
i totally understand all of the pp’s, but those are not pictures i personally would post online.
Post # 15
@ddw: my guy’s little sister would whip her boob out wherever we were, no cover unless her mom demanded she put on one. We were eating out at a restaurant with his mom, dad, sister, and younger brother and she even commented to her little brother “does this make you uncomfortable, hahahaha.” I have no problem with breast feeding in public but it makes it less awkward for everyone if you throw a blanket over your chest. Whipping your boob out in front of your brothers and dad still seems odd to me.
Post # 16
Having given birth to 4 babies (my youngest almost 2), all modesty goes out the window. You will learn that skin on skin is soooo good for babies and it’s almost natural to want to hold your newborn up to the warmest, softest part of your body … your skin.
After I gave birth, I didn’t spend the majority of my time in the hospital totally topless. I wore comfy yoga-type pants and had a nursing bra and a nursing tank top. I also had a button down sweater for the kiddos that I had in the cooler months. I had visitors with every birth and kept my baby and me covered when nursing.