(Closed) am i a selfish DW bride?

posted 14 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 17
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2022 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman

BubblyBride, I agree, what he said is rude.  It’s a given that people won’t be able to come to the wedding, that can happen even if the locale isn’t a tropical destination!  It irritated me when people would make it my problem that they weren’t coming to the wedding.  If I can’t attend someone’s wedding because of expenses, I say something polite about us not being able to make it.  Telling someone that the location they chose for their one and only wedding day is inconveinent for you, a guest, is just rude!  My attitude was like, if you can’t make it–fine!  We totally understand!  But please don’t make me feel guilty about where I chose to have my wedding!

Post # 18
1751 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Mrs Kitten – I agree!  It’s a shame that not everyone can come, but it’s not a surprise.  I’ve had some flak for my Destination Wedding too but I just brush it off and try to be as helpful as possible w/ the details that I *can* control.  But someone’s financial and time situation? That’s their business and I don’t want to know the gory details, like they probably don’t want to know mine!

Post # 19
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Sometimes I had Destination Wedding guilt but I love love love our fabulous wedding in Cancun.

We did not help our guests with any cost (other than covering for the parents), but we did plan a welcome dinner the night before and covered the cost for full day activities the day after the wedding. On top of that I didn’t have a bridal shower so that helped our guests save some money too. (more cz my friends live all over the world)

The thing is not being upset when people decline the invitation. Especially since times are hard. Another thing I also learned is trying to not be upset about close friends that have different priority in life (ex. rather spend money to vacation somewhere else or buy an expensive handbag that year instead of coming to the wedding)….


Post # 20
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@Kitten – Thanks for the support.  It is hard not to take things personally, even when it’s just one person being impolite.  It’s true – people would have to travel for our wedding, regardless of whether it’s in a tropical location or not.

@ipodgirl – glad to hear your wedding went well!  Good advice re: not being upset when people decline.  I think that is going to be my biggest challenge.  I’m keeping my fingers crossed that everyone I want to be there can come!

Post # 21
44 posts
  • Wedding: November 2009

Don’t feel guilty or like you are being selfish…I am sure that other brides don’t think of checking the airfare for every guest that they invite if they do not live in the same state…airfare is just a necessary evil.

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