- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Okay, I’m going to start with a little backstory here. My best friend and I have been best friends for as long as anyone can remember, since we were little kids, over twenty years. Granted, we have’t always gotten along and we’ve had our differences, she is still my Maid/Matron of Honor and I am hers a few months later. This is where things get tricky.
Her Fiance sucks, to put it bluntly. He is a very heavy drinker, I would say alcoholic. He makes decent money, but he is very reckless with it. They both live at her parent’s house, when they should have enough saved up to move out and he is totally taking advantage of everything. And to top it all off, he treats her like absolute crap! He goes out an dlies to her, he doesn’t come home and we all have reason to believe he is cheating on her (and he has in the past!). He is not nice to her friends, includng me and he has yelled at me and called me names before. I have every reason not to like him and I am genuinely concerned that she will be so miserable in a marriage to him.
We are all supportive of her and we try to make her see all of this, but she is so blinded by the fact that they are “high school sweet hearts”. He makes me sick and I feel so bad for her. I have brought it up to her in the past and it just results in fights and she always says she “can’t understand why I can’t be happy for her.” He has come between our friendship before and we have tried to work it out, but I cnnot bring myself to like him or accept that she is settling for him.
Now my question for you guys is, how do I make a Maid/Matron of Honor speech at this wedding that I wish would not happen? Should I tell her that I cannot make a speech? She knows I really do not approve of him and their wedding already.
I appreciate you guys that read my whole rant, now please do not tell me that I should’ve said no to being her Maid/Matron of Honor, because I am doing that for her and I love her like a sister. I have talked to her about the relationship and how unhealthy it is and that got nowhere, so that’s not worth it either.
I really just need some outside advice! Thanks!!!