(Closed) Am I abusive??

posted 4 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Mine are OK to leave out, but when they were young I also crated them.

No you’re not being abusive. Tell her to mind her own beeswax.  Tell her that you’d be happy to let her watch them during the day if she has such a problem with crating.  

Post # 4
3778 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@star282:  I know tons of people who crate their dogs during the day. When my husband had his dog, he was crated during the day. As long as he has food and water and  you’re not squeezing a 150lb dog in a cat carrier, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. 

Post # 5
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@star282:  You are absolutely not abusive! You’re dog sounds like he has a super loving family and is very well taken care of!

You’re nosy neighbor is completely wrong. I’m sorry she made you feel that way.

My little dog sleeps in bed most of the day lol she is a lazy bum. My fiance and I are both teachers so we are gone most of the day but even on days we are home (for school breaks and stuff) she will ignore us and spend from 10am-3pm up in bed. She is much older than your puppy but we think she is happy! 

Post # 6
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No, don’t let it bother you. Dogs, counterintuitevely to a lot of people, often love their crates! What a creepy neighbor you have. 

Either ignore your neighbor, or provide her with one of the very, very many reputable articles or books out there that attest to the fact that crating can be a great thing for dogs. 

Post # 7
3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

That is just not true. Your neighbor needs to mind her own business. There is nothing wrong with crating your dog while you’re not home. It’s a safe and comfortable place for him to be. My dog is crated 5 days a week during work hours which is a lot, but he knows the schedule and puts himself in there in the mornings. He has no issues with his crate. The rest of the time he’s very well taken care of, sleeps in our room at night, etc. Sometimes I go home at lunch to let him out and half the time he’s sound asleep in there and I have to drag him out for a walk!!

Post # 8
2112 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You are definitely not abusive! I Can’t believe your neighbor said that! It sounds like your dog has it pretty good to me 🙂

Post # 9
2617 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

We crate our puppy as well & I promise you, he’s a pretty damn happy & healthy puppy.  Your neighbor can mind her own business & stay out of yours :]

P.S. I tell my husband all the time that I wish I could take the puppy to work with me haha.

Post # 10
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@star282:  Our dog is 12, fully house trained, has the bladder of the champ, and sleeps all day on our couch…so, she is has the run of the house all day (sometimes upwards of 10 hours until one of us get home).

NOW, if/when we get a puppy, you better believe the dog will be crated at 8-months, with one of us letting her out mid-day, or right after work.  The dog would probably start getting ‘tested’ outside the crate at around 2 years of age, where we begin quaratining them off in a blocked room (say kitchen), and then slowly introducing them to the house while we are out for 1-2 hours on errands, etc.

This is how we (my family) have raised all of our dogs, and by 4 years of age they were able to roam the house while we were not home!! 

Your neighbors are WRONG…you sound like a great fur-momma!

Post # 11
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t crate my dog, because she does fine in the house all alone, but if she was destructive at all, you can bet she’d be crated while we’re at work/school! 

You’re absolutely not being abusive; people are ridiculous. Don’t take it personally.

Post # 12
403 posts
Helper bee

What a nerve. Ignore this person, she clearly has nothing better to do.

Post # 13
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You sound like a great dog owner to me! Many dogs are left home all day, everyday when their owners are at work. We crated our dog when we weren’t home until he was about 8-9 months old. Then we gated him in the mud room until we could trust him not to chew everything in sight. Now he has free roam of the house, but it takes time!

Post # 14
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You’re not being abusive.  She’s a nosy moron.

Post # 15
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

NO! You sound like a great pet owner. Most young dogs like the feeling of safety a crate provides. Leaving them on their own could lead to anxiety or chewing issues of non-food items which could then lead to major problems if the dog swallows the chewing remnants. As long as he continues to like the crate, you are doing fine 🙂

Post # 16
847 posts
Busy bee

You’re not abusive. Our dogs are in their crates for 6-7 hours a day.

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