(Closed) Am I abusive??

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@star282:  she’s wrong. dogs are den animals and are used to being crated. its natural and normal. obviously you need to weigh the length that he is in a crate with his ability to hold his urine, etc., but 5-6 hours is ok if its only once a week or so.

FWIW, our dog is 5 years old and she is crated every time we leave the house. twice a week she is crated for 8 hours. just make sure its a plenty big crate and he has a bed, toys, a blanket, etc.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If THAT is abusive then I must be evil. Our puppy is in a crate for 7 hours most weekdays but if my husband is working his second job that day (usually once a week – sometimes 2) its 8-9 hours. He survives. I would LOVE to not put him in a crate at all but i don’t trust him not to kill himself. 

Our older Dog gets the run of the house because I know she isn’t going to do anything dangerous and she is just going to sleep all day on our bed. She was never crate trained.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

@star282:  that’s not abusive! I used to think it was cruel, but after actually researching crate training, it makes so much sense and is something we will definitely be doing when we get a dog. A dog who has been crate trained sees the crate as its safe place, a lot go in there willingly. It’s not a form of punishment, it’s a way to keep your pet safe when you can’t be there. It would be cruel to let it have free reign of the house and chew on electrical cords.

It’s fantastic he goes to doggy daycare when you work a longer day! 

If your neighbour complains again, give her the number for the RSPCA and invite her to make her frivolous and unfounded complaint…maybe she should spend her time complaining about dogs who suffer real abuse and neglect. She has no idea what she is talking about.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@star282:  You don’t sound abusive AT ALL.  I’m out for 7-8 hours a day and my two (small breeds) have the run of the kitchen in the winter, and I put them in the garage so they can get out to the garden in the warmer months.  But you have to do what works for you and your dog.  It sounds like he gets enough exercise and you clearly love him.

Post # 51
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683 posts
Busy bee

we crate both of ours. our german shepherd has been crated since he was 8 weeks old, he knows no different and its so routine that he loves it. he sleeps in it at night too, and he will stand in it and wait for you to shut the door when he is ready for bed.lol

we also have a 10yr old pomeranian that we started crating about 6 months ago because she was having accidents all day. i was nervous she would hate it but she LOVES it. goes in there when were homes and its open and everything.

i always used to think it was not fun or pleasent for a dog to be stuck in a crate all day but after having the experience with my 2 dogs it has really showed me that the crate is a positive thing and they love it! its their own private place in the house that they no no one else will go in and if they want quiet time they can go there. now i wonder why people are so quick to let there dogs have free roam, my dogs will always be crated because they clearly like it better.

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@star282:  You are absolutely not abusive.  We crated our puppies all night long when they were growing up because otherwise they would scratch their way through the walls and door to get to us.  Being crated for 6 hours a day isn’t that big a deal, especially if you’re not doing it every day and they’re still getting lots of exercise and playtime when they’re let out.  That woman needs to mind her own business.

Post # 53
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@star282:  You are NOT being abusive at all.  My husband and I also work full-time and we crate our dog while we’re at work.  Our dog also voluntarily naps in her crate when we’re both home with her.  I think you sound like a great pet parent.  Don’t let this Nosey Nancy bother you.  Only you and your husband know what’s best for your four-legged family member.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

@star282:  Absolutely not. My friend has a dog who has to be constantly crated when he’s inside because he pees everywhere and tries to hurt their cat. He gets two walks a day, free run of their backyard, and plenty of love and affection. He’s honestly one of the happiest dogs I know! 

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

No. What a terrible neighbor to say that to you. 

We crate our dog for safety reasons. Poor thing simply isn’t smart enough to roam the house unattended. On the longest days he’s in his crate from 8:30-4:15 (FI comes home at noon to let him out for a half hour). He couldn’t be more spoiled or loved. 

 

Post # 56
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1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@weddingbee098:  lol! I would love to see what my dog does alone

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@star282:  Our year and a half year old puppy actually loves to be in her kennel. She hates to be out when we’re gone and she winds up having some really bad anxiety issues. The kennel is her safe place. 🙂 I only work 5 hour days about 3x a week, and that’ll soon change when the baby is here in May and I become a Stay-At-Home Mom, but even so if we’re gone for periods of time, she LOVES to be in her kennel! We almost have to drag her out, haha. 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

i’m the biggest dog lover of all time. and you should not worry at all, that is not abusive!! 

what a nosy neighbor. i would tell them to mind their own business or call the police if she truly thinks its abuse (but it isn’t so don’t worry).

Post # 60
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

no way in hell are you abusive! your dog is GORGEOUS by the way and i cant wait to have a golden when we move out of this stupid apartment! i have a pomeranian and even though he is tiny he was distrucive when he was a baby. he just turned 2 and i would say he started having free roam of the house (big mistake, now he runs the damn house) when he was about 8 months, but of course he’s like the size of your dogs head, so i can totally understand why yours is still crated lol my sister has a golden a little over a year old and that thing is crazy and needs to be crated haha

Post # 61
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

oh, and mine also goes in his crate for naps (he sleeps with us at night). i call it his “room”. and he also goes in there when he is bad, and even after i open it up to let him out he doesnt want to get out. he loves it, so your neighbor is an idiot.

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