(Closed) Am I acting too bratty about this?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

They probably figure that since you didn’t have a big wedding then they don’t need to send you money. I don’t know how you feel, but I would probably just let it go. Be happy that you don’t have to depend on your parents to pay your living expenses. 

Post # 5
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Maybe jokingly ask your dad if he put money aside for your wedding?  See what he says. 

Post # 6
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would just let it go. You never know what his financial obligations are. As you said, his wife has a problem managing money and since you are an adult, his first priority now is his wife. I would definitely think differently if you were a minor. 

Post # 7
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In short, yes you are being a brat. Fiance and I are eloping and we aren’t expecting anyone (even our parents) to give us gifts. People buy you wedding gifts because you are paying for a meal and entertainment for them at a wedding reception. I’m sorry to be blunt, but you make it sound like you are entitled to expensive gifts just because you got married… I personally don’t agree with that.

Like Miss Tattoo, I’d probably just get over it, but if it’s that important to you talk to your parents.

Post # 8
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@nontraditionalmiami: The way I see it is you have two options at this point. Flat out ask for $5000 and say that it’s only fair to you since your half sister got it, or just let it go. What you don’t want to do is hold it in and start to resent people for it. 

Post # 11
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It sounds to me like you have more of an issue with your sister, maybe she’s the one who you should talk to instead

Post # 12
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@nontraditionalmiami: lol good. I would hope you just wouldn’t ask for it. I was just putting it out there. Do you feel like your half sister has been treated better? 

Post # 13
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80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I really hear you on this one. I have an ex-stepsister who still relies on my dad for everything (her mom is too occupied with her new Boyfriend or Best Friend to care). So far, he has paid for her wedding, divorce, legal fees when she got in a fight with her husband, taken care of her son countless times and gone and picked her up every time she moves out of state with some random dude and then breaks up with him. It’s really tough to see him bend over backwards that like for her, but when I’ve asked for a little help with the wedding, it takes forever for me to see anything.

The thing in my situation is though, I know my dad loves me and actually respects me more than this ex-stepsister because I can take care of myself. The last time I saw him, he even said that he was ready to break the ties with this ex-stepsister (his ex-stepdaughter) because she takes advantage of him.

So, long story short, I think it might help if you remember how your parents probably see you versus your sister. You’re independent and reliable, whereas she sounds like a bit of a mess. Respect is always more valuable over money, IMO.

*Hugs*

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would probably just let it go. I’m sure he’s not trying to play favourites or anything, he just figured that since you didn’t have a traditional wedding he didn’t have anything to pay for.  I would think the same thing if I were him.

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