(Closed) am i allowed (as the bride) to give an opinion on bachelorette plans?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and planning my bachelorette party. I gave her suggestions and opinions on things I wanted to do and didn’t want to do. She’s a big partier/drinker and I’m not. I simply told her I’d rather do something fun than go out drinking. I think there’s ways to hint at what you’d prefer without sounding whiny and ungrateful. It is your party afterall!

 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well I told my girls, no stripper clubs and they planned it according to that.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I told my girls no penis paraphernalia. They listened! 

I think you can make requests for sure, hopefully they’ll take your wants into consideration since it’s supposed to be an extra fun night for you!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would definitely tell them if there are places you do or do not want to go. They’re getting together for you! And it is not terribly demanding of you to request places you go to eat, especially since you’re travelling so far to get there! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the bride should be allowed some input. In an ideal world, the hostesses will plan the perfect extravaganza but that’s not always the case. I think you have a valid point and if you voice it politely, I think they would understand. I would phrase it like, “I really love eating x and y when I’m here in England! I get so tired of Mexican food since that’s all I eat at home.” Right now, the Mexican restaurant is just one of the suggestions anyway, so you still have plenty of time to change the plans.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it’s fair to give guidelines for things you absolutely want or don’t want, and then leave the rest to them. I really don’t think there is anything wrong with you getting to give input on a party meant for you anyways.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@couawilou:  I said the same thing, I told one of my bridesmaids that when the time comes for the bacholorette party deff no strip clubs! lol. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@newname_99:  I think as the bride you should be able to give some sugestions, but let them plan the night. 

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think suggetions are fine!  You just can’t make demands (such as we have to go to X and only X will do).  You can say that you have a craving for X kind of food or that you’d prefer not Mexican since you eat it all the time.  You can give your input on what you’d prefer to do and what you prefer not to do, but leave the planning to them.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I think you should be able to say no mexican… they should understand that, and hope they don’t get offended.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think the bride’s input is VERY important. Its her party, she should have some say as to what happens. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think your friends would want to do something you lilke, and a few suggestions are always appreciated, just remember there’s a fine line between helpful guidance and micromanagement.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You definitely may give guidelines, just don’t take over planning.

I don’t blame you for not wanting Mexican food.  I lived in London (7 years ago, but still) and there were very few decent Mexican restaurants there.  Suggest Indian, or a good gastro-pub!

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